- Ms. 3D RC Flyer
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Yesterday was not a good day at all for me, probably one of the worst I have had in a long time by far!
On Monday my Maid/Matron of Honor got engaged. I am estactically happy for her. I know she had been wanting this and with me talking wedding it was making it worse for her. With that being said she has been almost nonexistent since the end of Jan. It was the middle of Jan. when she happily accepted her role as Maid/Matron of Honor. Her involvment has been so minimal I actually “promoted” another bm to a secondary Maid/Matron of Honor role as I have need a lot of help and advice in planning this wedding. I will also add that she is currently in the midst of planning her wedding for August 2013. I saw her for the first time in weeks this past weekend actually the day before she got engaged, I also have to add that this is probably the first time I’ve talked with her in weeks.
When we were talking hypothetically at a cook out she said that if they ever got engaged she was thinking of having her wedding in October of next year but that was all dependent on the legal status of the best man and they wouldn’t know for a couple of months.
Yesterday we found out that we are about to be hit financially very hard. Things are already tight as it is and for the next 2-3 months it is going to be beyond tight. Mr. Rc and I are both 30 something college students. We live off of financial aid and with some creative financing were going to be having our wedding. Well he is only one credit away from graduating and due to this, his next quarter he was going to be receiving no financial aid. So we have to pay for the class out of pocket (it’s a business geared university for working adults, so it isn’t cheap). Ok well I can handle that, however this means that because he is enrolled in only one class his monthly income from the GI Bill is not going to be enough for us to live on, let alone carry on with the wedding planning….*sigh*
So as soon as I found this out, I tried to remain calm – I am a things happen for a reason kind of girl. I texted my Maid/Matron of Honor actually both of them to let them know that we were going to have to postpone for a couple of months. Well Maid/Matron of Honor #1 the newly engaged Maid/Matron of Honor replies “Well just remember mine will be around October”. Seriously?! No oh wowo what happened, are you ok? or Is there anything I can do? Or do you need to talk? MOH#2 was all over it asking what was going on, was there any way she could help out etc.
Granted I haven’t been happy with Maid/Matron of Honor #1’s involvement but she is a really dear friend of mine and we have been extremely close for a couple of years. I think that is what hurt the most. I hadn’t kicked her out of the wedding party prior to this because of how good of friends we are…or at least I thought we were.
I texted her and received a reply that was just utter bull, so as it stands right now she is out and our friendship has most likely come to an end because I haven’t heard from her since our brief exchange last night.
So at this point we have postponed the wedding to October 26 2013 and I have had to fire my Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m not even sure what I am hoping to get from this post other than I needed to vent and get some of this out because this is just not giving me a warm fuzzy feeling. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?