Not picking close girls to be bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would ask those closest to you, but let them know you won’t be upset if they can’t accept. It’s your wedding! If they’re close to you, I can’t imagine them passing it up, especially if you let them wear something they feel comfortable in. I know I’d be upset if I found out I was passed up for bridesmaid because they thought someone wanted it more. Wanting to be a bridesmaid isn’t a good reason to pick someone.

Post # 3
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Have you already asked them? If you have, game over. You cant “rechoose”. If you havent, i wouldnt even tell the original girls, i would just pick who I WANT to be a bridesmaid… No need for an explanation.

Post # 5
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you have already asked them it would be really difficult to replace them with other people. You might just have to manage with the girls you have, after all no one is perfect. If they are really close to you, whatever they wear shouldn’t matter too much as long as they support you all the way up to the big day.

Post # 6
588 posts
Busy bee

beetobee255:  If you’ve already asked them, I don’t think you can re-pick. I know some women on here have asked BMs to step down, but there is no polite and non-hurtful way to do it. You can double check with them if they really want to do it, and if they say they’d rather not, then that’s fine, but otherwise, you’re stuck. Show them the dresses you want, explain why you want them, and ask them if they’re okay with it. 

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