Post # 1
Let me preface this by saying I REALIZE THIS IS RIDICULOUS.
I love love love our photographer. I think they do excellent work, and in general just love them/their personalities and want to be BFFs with them. When a friend asked for recommendations (she’s planning a wedding from out of state) of course I recommended our photographers. She set up a Skype meeting, emailed me that she loved them, our photogs also emailed me saying they met with her and were excited about maybe working with her, blah blah blah.
So then today she mentioned on FB that she booked a photographer – a different photographer. For some reason I feel like it’s an insult. Like I know logically it’s not – different personalities, etc, etc – but I LOVE our photogs and I’m just sad she’s not using them too. It feels like if someone were to meet my friend, and then tell me later they don’t like that frien. I’m just bummed that my recommendation didn’t pan out. I even went as far as thinking “well, maybe they needed somone cheaper” – but I checked and the person they booked is more expensive.
Don’t get me wrong, the person they booked is great, but I wouldn’t say they are better than ours, and they’re the same “style”.
Someone please tell me I’m not the first person to feel this way. #firstworldproblems
(also, I wasn’t sure if this was “photo” or “emotional” because gosh darn it feels like both!)
Post # 3
Oh I’ve felt like this before. I’ll recommend someone or something to a friend and when they don’t use it I get all weird and “what? My tastes aren’t good? Fine, be that way!” <—I obviously don’t say that out loud to anyone lol. It’s silly and I feel like a wacko afterwards but I totally understand what you’re feeling 🙂
Post # 4
@StL.Ashley: I’ve felt the same way also with recommending a photographer. And then for a split-second, I doubt my own decision (did we pick the right one? should we have booked the photographer they booked?). Most of the time it comes down to price and personality, and since my fiancé and I are very happy with our photographer, I usually brush it off.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@StL.Ashley: Maybe they didn’t connect with your photographer. Having good rapport between the couple and the photographer is really important and maybe they just didn’t click with each other. It’s okay to be disappointed though.
Post # 6
It’s totally OK to feel this way…and at least you know it’s a bit ridiculous! I recommended our photog to a friend getting married after us and they did end up using her…but I know I would have felt a bit insulted if they hadn’t as well! Totally natural.
Post # 7
@StL.Ashley: Maybe she found one with a similar style that was more in her budget. No matter what, honestly, it’s really nothing to be offended about.
Post # 8
@StL.Ashley: …meh, we had the opposite, a photographer who usually does scenic and contract work for decorators did ours, some friend of ours asked if she would shoot their wedding and she flatly answered, “no.”
Post # 10
I understand where you’re coming from, but photography is so subjective and there are so many factors affecting the decision. This actually happened when we booked ours. A friend who is getting married this year recommended their photographer and I contacted them because I liked their work. I didn’t connect with them one bit. In fact, I thought one of the two photographers was a bit of a jerk. My friends are very happy with them and I’m sure they’re going to have some wonderful photos, but I knew that I would not be satisfied if I booked them. I really love the photographer we booked and she really understands us, our wedding, and what we’re looking for. What’s important is that we made the right decisions for our own weddings.