not picking my photographer = personal insult

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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6000 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh I’ve felt like this before. I’ll recommend someone or something to a friend and when they don’t use it I get all weird and “what? My tastes aren’t good? Fine, be that way!” <—I obviously don’t say that out loud to anyone lol. It’s silly and I feel like a wacko afterwards but I totally understand what you’re feeling 🙂

Post # 4
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@StL.Ashley:  I’ve felt the same way also with recommending a photographer. And then for a split-second, I doubt my own decision (did we pick the right one? should we have booked the photographer they booked?). Most of the time it comes down to price and personality, and since my fiancé and I are very happy with our photographer, I usually brush it off.

Post # 5
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@StL.Ashley:  Maybe they didn’t connect with your photographer.  Having good rapport between the couple and the photographer is really important and maybe they just didn’t click with each other.  It’s okay to be disappointed though.

Post # 6
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2165 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s totally OK to feel this way…and at least you know it’s a bit ridiculous!  I recommended our photog to a friend getting married after us and they did end up using her…but I know I would have felt a bit insulted if they hadn’t as well!  Totally natural.  

Post # 7
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2320 posts
Buzzing bee

@StL.Ashley:  Maybe she found one with a similar style that was more in her budget. No matter what, honestly, it’s really nothing to be offended about. 

Post # 8
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@StL.Ashley:  …meh, we had the opposite, a photographer who usually does scenic and contract work for decorators did ours, some friend of ours asked if she would shoot their wedding and she flatly answered, “no.”

Post # 10
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

I understand where you’re coming from, but photography is so subjective and there are so many factors affecting the decision.  This actually happened when we booked ours.  A friend who is getting married this year recommended their photographer and I contacted them because I liked their work.  I didn’t connect with them one bit.  In fact, I thought one of the two photographers was a bit of a jerk.  My friends are very happy with them and I’m sure they’re going to have some wonderful photos, but I knew that I would not be satisfied if I booked them.  I really love the photographer we booked and she really understands us, our wedding, and what we’re looking for.  What’s important is that we made the right decisions for our own weddings.

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