Post # 1
Hi all. Here’s another question I have faced during wedding planning. In my opinion, it’s a waste of my time and money to set up, as well as family and friends.
I have owned a house with Fiance for 3 plus years and lived together for more than that. So, to ask people for towels, dishes, appliances is not needed at all. I can see how it’ll be good for people to have it to maybe meet the Fiance or family if not already done so and ofcourse to get much needed items so not trying to bring it down. Just not my thing…….instead i’m thinking of a honeymoon registry but even that I don’t know many who have done that too. My travel agency does do them. Just an idea at this point.
So, anyone else feel the same way I do about wedding showers…especially if you’re on the same boat as I am 🙂
Post # 3
I did, but my voice got lost in a sea of angry mothers. So now I’m having a shower.
If you can do it- stick to your guns!
Post # 4
@Melie12: I’m in the same boat! I feel that we already have what we need since we live together too and would be silly to hold a shower. As for the key people to meet, my mother suggested I invite them to other things: dress fittings, cake testing, etc. This way it would make it more casual without having to go through a formal shower 🙂
Post # 5
No shower here. I live small by choice (but I live comfortably…I love interior design). I have no need for more kitchen supplies or linens at this point in my life. If I was 22 years old and just starting out, I’m sure I’d love a shower. At 33, it doesn’t seem necessary.
Post # 6
@Melie12: my angry mother and new bridesmaid and friend still wont accept “no thanks” as an answer. So yesterday Fiance and I went to Bed Bath & Beyond to do our 1st Registry! It was kind of fun picking out some wishful items and then some reasonable everyday items! There were some things we forgot we had been wanting and it was a great opportunity to throw it on there; heck you never know right?
My Fiance and I have been together going on 8 years! So we feel we have the majority of things but we do admit they arent the “nicest” of things, much being 2nd/3rd hand me downs! Which is TOTALLY fine, we are young! But now that we are going to be married and starting a family hopefully soon, would be nice to have some real China, flatware, glassware, kitchen appliances/gadgets that you wouldnt normally splurge on yourself!
We considered the Honeymoon Registries but have asked a few past brides and said most of their guests opt’d for random gift cards instead, plus most places take a small profit. Most people are going to wish you had done some sort of registry to guide them in things you want/need; so if the honeymoon thing is good for ya’ll, do it!! =) Best of Luck!
Post # 7
Thanks for your input ladies! I am 29 and have been with Fiance for 8 plus years so our immediate family members know each other well. I have a different rank of importance on wedding related things compared to others (mom.Future Mother-In-Law,friends,etc) and wedding shower is on the bottom. It may have something to do with things in my house falling apart so home projects take precedence. 😉 I still have a ways to go before deciding on the honeymoon registry but I am favoring that so far.