Not really excited for the wedding…is that weird?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: When did you really start getting excited for the wedding?
    I maintained my excitement for my entire engagement : (30 votes)
    39 %
    I started getting excited a few months before : (10 votes)
    13 %
    I started getting excited a few weeks before : (10 votes)
    13 %
    I didn't get excited until the day of the wedding : (11 votes)
    14 %
    I never really got excited - just went through the motions. : (16 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @sanjessica:  My wedding is Oct. 19th and I am still pretty jaded by it…So, I think it is normal to not be all jazzed up. I am sure when it gets closer you will start to feel the excitement!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @sanjessica:  Lol, yeah I can’t handle much more planning. I wish I could click my fingers and let it all be over and done! I am pretty sure that I have gained an allergic reaction to Etsy and DIY projects

    Post # 6
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    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m still early in my planning but I’m really finding my excitement is coming and going. Whenever I’m in a phase where I’m having to do a lot of work, I’m not so excited and wish the wedding was just over with already. After I get a few things booked, and feel a little more relaxed, then I get more excited! So, I expect I’m going to be similar in the stressful few weeks before hand. Have you been excited any times before? Maybe you’ll be able to enjoy it more once you’ve gotten some of the last minute details sorted. Are there any tasks you can ditch so you can relax a bit more and enjoy it? 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @sanjessica:  I was burnt out towards the end of planning so not all that excited.  I found the morning of to be very stressful and I was nervous so it wasn’t that exciting either. We had a blast though once we got to the reception.

    Post # 8
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I was excited after getting engaged, but it petered out by March… I was just ready to get married and TTC!

    So I didn’t get excited around the wedding, so much as I got closer!

    Post # 9
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    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think I was pretty excited about getting married, not the wedding itself. As beautiful as our wedding was, it was just a day in our lives. I was more excited about the fact that I was going to become a wife. Plus, to be honest, to me the whole wedding planning process was exhausting and not really fun. 

    Post # 10
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    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I kinda got rushed into planning EVERYTHING that to me woulda been more fun to drag out so I am ENTIRELY over the whole process. I want to be married and it all to be done. & I don’t fake happy well so I am pretty sure it shows on my face even when I try to play along when people are asking. {hello look at my user name!} I am so thankful I stuck to my guns about NO DIY (i SUCK) and keeping things simple. My photographer swears we’ll feel it as it gets closer.. I’m a message away if you need to vent. I, honestly, was chalking my un-excitedness to the fact that I’m 37 and ready for the next phase of life – being married. 

    Post # 11
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I was exactly the same way about 6 weeks out from my wedding.  I was under so much pressure and I was so stressed out that I just wasn’t excited any more.  Then when people would ask me if I was excited, I felt compelled to say yes and then I felt guilty for acting fake, and that just stressed me out even more.  All that fell away on the wedding day though.  I was very excited and happy to marry my soulmate.

    So, I’d chalk up the way you’re feeling to being overwhelmed and stressed out from the hassles you’re dealing with.  Try not to add on additional stress by being stressed that you’re so stressed.  😛  You’ll feel different on your actual day.

    Post # 12
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    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was excited for it to be done. Lol thats about it. I love being married, i hated planning a wedding when i wanted to elope

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I am not nearly as excited as people expect me to be, say I should be, or others are at this stage.  I’m pretty “meh” about it all.  I feel bad sometimes because I don’t feel excited like people tell me I should be.  It’s not because I’m not in love with my FI, I just can’t seem to be in love with this whole magical idea of a wedding and tears and gushing. Honestly, if I could skip the ceremony I would go straight to partying at the reception!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wasnt too excited for our wedding…i was excited to be married and for the honeymoon!

    Post # 15
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    This process has taught me how much I hate party planning, hate big parties, and never wanted one for a wedding. Obviously one of us did, but the other one couldn’t convince him to elope *ahem*.

    It’ll be a good party I’m sure, then I’ll go to bed… and the next day, wake up as a normal human being again – yaay!

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