(Closed) Not really planning but just thinking about the no kids thing..

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would say leave him out of it. If he’s the only kid he will probably be even worse that he usually is because he will be bored to tears.  Is his mom an out of town guest, or does she live nearby where your wedding is? If she lives nearby then I would assume that he would be watched by a sitter, maybe she can bring him for photos. The only thing you might catch flack about is the sister going to all the trouble to get the little tyke all clean and dressed for like 30 minutes of pictures. 

I’m’ kind of thinking that you should not have him at all (which would be my personal preference) or have him for the whole thing. 

Post # 5
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with PP. I would have him in either all or none OR if your Future Sister-In-Law can find a babysitter for him that would be ok too.

Post # 6
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

To be honest, I would be a little offended that my child wasn’t good enough to go to the wedding but that someone would want to still show him off in pictures. It is either all or nothing. He’s 4. Does he scream at the top of his lungs all the time?

Post # 7
38 posts

@Chrysoberyl:  If there are more kids why don’t you provide a children area? That’s what we’re planning to do if we get kids on the guest list. I just think it’s kind of rude to not invite kids, but that’s just me (I don’t like offending people). So maybe you could hire some one to take care of the kids during the ceremony and reception, and see if the parents can bring them a sleeping bag for later at night. In their area you could have osme entertainment too like a movie and snacks.  

@onourway13:  I agree, I too would be offended.





Post # 8
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Chrysoberyl:  I don’t have any suggestions but did want to comment that I absolutely loathe people like your Future Sister-In-Law who bring small kids to R rated evening movies!  I mean, that’s bad enough but to hand him her CELL to play with and not take him out when he makes noise?


Post # 9
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


email me on [email protected] if you want a template of the kids activity book I created for my wedding to keep kids occupied during the service.

Post # 10
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is definitely an all-or-nothing situation.

Would it be the end of the world if your nephew was not in your wedding pictures?  This is just my personal opinion, but I think overall wedding day experience and low-stressfulness trumps getting a few pictures — meaning, that I would be more upset if my nephew was being disruptive and loud than I would about not having a picture. Just my thoughts.

Post # 12
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hire a babysitter. We had 18 kids at my 150ish person wedding. We hired a montessori teacher to watch them in a corner of the upstairs bar – they had games, toys, coloring books, etc. Parents could drop them off and pick them up throughout the reception. I don’t think any were left there during the ceremony, but the kids of our friends/family are generally well-behaved – I’ve never seen one acting out at a wedding or large event.

Post # 13
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If that’s his behavior he probably will be like that for photos too.

Post # 16
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Chrysoberyl:  I didn’t see any part of your original post that mentioned wanting him at the wedding. Maybe I read it wrong, but it seemed like you were wanting to know if was okay to only have him there for pictures and nothing else. If he is developmentally delayed, I would feel even worse. Really sad to read about his mom though.

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