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I"m going through it with my bands now.. I understand. But I LOVE yours!!!
Everyone from time to time gets the "grass is greener" syndrome! Especially when it comes to big life events. Your ring is beautiful. Be happy for what you have! It's a somewhat perminent accessory, so you better be happy with it!
sunnygal -- your post is what gave me the stones to write mine :) I feel so ... ungrateful!
your ring is gorgeous! just enjoy it. life is full of what ifs. just focus on what you have and love it.
in my opinion, you made the right choice.
I think your ring is beautiful! If you think about it, soooooo many people have solitaire rings. There is nothing wrong with that if thats what you really, really want, but I think there is something to be said for going against the grain.
Like others said, the grass is always greener and if you are still feeling this way years from now you can always get your diamond reset in a band that will make you happy!
I agree your ring is absolutely gorgeous!!! I love my ring too and have only recently started to question my love for it, but only because it is so darn frustrating to find a band to go with it...I am probably going to have to go the custom route if anything.
I think you made the right choice because your ring in beautiful! There are so many good options out there I'm sure most girls will always wonder "what if" because I know I also do.
Can we say bling-tastic?! Your ring is awesome times infinity. I love my ring, but I refused to give my FH any guidance whatsoever beforehand because I wanted it to be a complete surprise. I know I would've picked a different ring than the one he gave me, and most of the time I love it *more* because of that. Every now and then I wonder if I should've gone ring shopping with him and gotten what I envisioned as perfect. I think we all feel that way sometimes, and there's nothing wrong with that feeling.
It's gorgeous--I think you just want all the diamonds, no? Because every ring I see I'm like, "oooo i love that!" and "oooo i want that!". I just love 'em all. =]
Mine is a very plain solitaire, but that's because it's my personality. Your ring is absolutely stunning, and I know that I would have been lured by its beauty during the shopping period if I had tried it on, but my gut would have still led me to my setting.
Something tells me that if this was your first gut preference, it's the right one. ProudPeacockBride is right - I'm sure we all get that little twinge of "what if" pondering, but in the end, I'm sure we'd all still pick what we picked. And seriously, your ring is incredible!
Umm, you definitely made the right choice :) That ring is goregous!
I definitely "regret" my ring choice sometimes. Actually, I regret not trying on more before I decided on one (my husband told me he wanted me to pick it out myself). I felt weird at the jewelry stores, and only tried on a few. I pretty much knew what I wanted, and just picked one out online and went with it.
Now that the wedding is over, I sometimes think that the band on my ring is too thin. I always wanted a super thin, dainty band, but I have sausage fingers, and I often think it just makes my fingers look fat or something. I LOVE my ring, but wish I had gone with a thicker band.
I keep hinting to my hubby that to solve the problem, all I really need is a second "anniversary band" to go on top of my wedding band and e-ring :) Then I think I would feel better about it because it would all look like one thick band.
I have one similar to yours but with a round halo. I love it because FI got more for his $$- the .9 carat diamond looks MUCH bigger surrounded by its little friends! That's one thing you've got going for ya!
I have NEVER been a fan of solitaires and so it's hard for me to relate. I just think (IMO!!! Not putting anyone down!) that they're boring! From one solitaire to the next, not much difference. But yours is SO different and gorgeous and unique. I think solitaires can be jazzed up with bands but yours is gorgeous alone (and will be awesome-er with a band! I got two tiny ones, personally!)
Enjoy your amazing ring!
your ring is stunning!! i think you definitely made the right choice!
Your ring is gorgeous! Solitaires are beautiful but your ring is UNREAL!
Your ring is great, but I definitely understand what you're going through - don't feel guilty for having the "what-if" thoughts. Right after we got engaged the "halo" style ring became really popular and I LOVED them!!! I started to think about having my E-ring re-set, but after much thought, I decided that I really loved my ring and I love that it is THE ring that FI chose for me. For that reason it carries a lot of sentimentality for me. Further, I am a jewelry collector and DH has always bought me fabulous jewelry (including several gemstone rings), so I know someday there will be an anniversary diamond ring that can be totally different from my E-ring just for the variety :) But we've only been married for a year and there's plenty of time for all that!! 
Thanks everyone! It was the first ring I fell in love with, and actually saw it in a store window months before we even talked about getting engaged. And I really, really do love it! I guess I just wanted reassurance that I wasn't a horrible person for thinking the "what ifs"
To be fair, this whole thing may have something to do with an encounter I had at a hotel a week or so ago. I was there for a conference, but the hotel also is home to a very swank Wolfgang Puck restaurant. As I was touching up my makeup in the ladies room, a woman came up to the mirror with a Louis Speedy (::drool::) and a GI-normous solitaire -- I mean, we're talking at least 3 ct. And it sort of got me thinking about the ring I won't have, when what I should be doing is focusing on the ring and the man I do have :)
@ejs -- you are correct! I want all jewelry! I keep dropping hints the size of anvils about my Something New -- which I'm hoping will be some type of diamond or pearl stud that will be my wedding day gift.
I think it's a case of grass is always greener. There was a diamond that we almost bought for me at a different store. It was a gorgeous Ascher cut, and we loved it. It was a decent price and I think it was a full carat. We decided not to get it b/c I didn't really like the store's settings, and I was against buying a ring from a "mall" store, for some arbitrary reason. I love my ring, but sometimes I think "what if."
I can 100% relate. (BTW: Your ring is beautiful!)
I had such solitaire ring envy for awhile & I wasn't happy with my ring (actually, the split shank band) at all.
I felt so ungrateful & I felt like such a spoiled brat. I was scared to bring it up to him & he just laughed once I told him. We've now agreed that he can make all the major decisions b/c I suck lol.
Your ring is stunning I am getting ring envy from looking at it.
i know what you mean. I wanted a ring like Carries from SAC an emerald cut with two bagguetes on either side. When I went to the designer and saw all the diamonds the emerald cut ones look small when they are only 1 carot so I choose a radient cut one (rectangle but with heaps of cuts) I opted to not get the baguettes on either side so I could get a better diamond.
In the end I got a .92ct D colour SI1 radient cut diamond on a white gold band.
Sometimes I get envious of people who's ring looks bigger or more ellaborate even though they spent less. Inside I know my diamond is very high quality but sometimes wish I had a bit more bling.
Your ring is gorgeous!
I have ring regret/grass is greener thoughts every once in awhile about my ring. I love it but sometimes I think "should I have hinted at a solitare (my original choice), or a halo setting instead?" And I get a little jealous when I see other people I know with rings I like.
But I ended up getting what I was meant to get and I still love it. :)
Your ring is fabulous!!! I understand what you mean, though- I have a solitiare (which I love!!!), but every so often I think about having it re-set in an antique pave setting - like yours- I love it! Clearly the only solution is for us all to get two rings!!! (I jest, I jest!)
You ring is AWESOME. I'd love to sport it on my finger. I think the grass is always greener. If you had the solitaire, you might be wondering if you should have gotten this one instead! :P
That's a beautiful ring! And I think we all have moments of "what if" if only because there are so many beautiful rings out there in the world.
that's an amazing ring and i think far more exciting than a solitaire! i'm sort of in the same boat. i am convinced that i don't want a solitaire - they just aren't very interesting to me. i work in the design industry so unique little details are important. though when i went into a jewelry store the other day to try stuff on, i liked the solitaires better in person. i think i still really prefer rings with sidestones, but every so often i see a solitaire with a cool band that i think is cool. sigh!
It's pretty!! I would have loved a solitaire-but FI went alone to get the ring so no say from me-it's a marquise, but the band kinda goes with the shape. Not my favorite or really me, but it's my ring!
I don't have regret either but I do wonder "what if..." sometimes. What if I had gotten a solitare or a different setting wear diamonds didn't fall out constantly and I could actually wear my engagement ring instead of having it just sit at the jewelers every other month to get diamonds replaced. They've had in their posession more than I have. OK thats an exaggeration but I really don't ever wear it out of fear. I think I am going to get it reset.
Your ring is really pretty and if thats what you felt in your gut you wanted I think you should give it a chance to love it again. There are a million pretty rings out there so it's natural to get jealous of other peoples rings. But this is the style you felt worked for you - stick with it! :)
If you decide you really really want a solitare you can always get the diamond from your ring reset.
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Okay, here goes. I've been muddling over this for awhile now. When the boy and I were first talking about rings he very much wanted a solitare, and although I used to think that was what I wanted, after we tried a few on (including, naturally the largest one in the store just to see what it looked like :p) I realized I didn't like them as much as I thought I did. Then I fell in love with a round stone in a square high pave setting with a matching pave band. Some minor arguments ensued and I wound up with the ring I wanted. And I love it, I do!
But ... sometimes I wonder. What if we'd gone with the solitare? I see women with beautiful solitaire rings and get sort of envious and wonder if maybe I shouldn't have been so stubborn. So it's not ring regret, really. I'm not going to ask him for a different one. I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt like this -- like What If?What if we'd gone with a different one.But then I feel guilty, because I love my ring! Gah!
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