(Closed) Not sad for no’s

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can’t say that I do the same, but our number is much smaller.  With 400 people you are bound to get more NO’s though!  I don’t think you’re terrible for it! But maybe you should have cut back the list beforehand.  Oh well, all you can do is wait and see what the final number is! Good luck.

Post # 5
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484 posts
Helper bee

I haven’t sent my invites yet but I will be secretly happy if I get no’s (unless it’s someone I really want there). I just do not at all want a big wedding but all these people whom I have never really spent time with are expressing excitement about taking a vacation in Hawaii for our wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m right there with you!  We are in a very similar situation as you are (invited 455) and I smile on the inside when people decline!  I have a large family and we’ve moved around over the last few years and have made lots of great friends, so having a small wedding wasn’t in the cards for us either!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

There are some people we "have to invite" that I hope can’t make it; it is terrible, I know, but I would rather have the people be people that I like and KNOW. Some people my FI and have no connection to whatsoever but "have" to invite them. Those are the people that I hope don’t show, and honestly, if I received an invite like that where I knew the bride/groom very little I wouldn’t go!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Too funny — that doesn’t make you a bad person. I’m sure you have must-have guests and, well, "optional" guests (to put it nicely!).

I don’t have a straight answer. I know there were certain people that had to be invited and I am hoping they say no, mainly because I disagree with the reasons that they required invitations. However, I would be happiest if everyone I invited could come. When I got my first reply and it was a no I actually cried. Oh well. That’s what happens when you only invite 60 people.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I too am looking forward to the NOs. We cut down our list to only include 200 people and no more. So the more that come in no the more we can add and the less bad we feel about cutting people. Also, Mr. Sonipapdi decided to cut all the childern from our work friends, I disagree so if there are enough nos we can add them back too.

Post # 11
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I definitely need a few "no" responses since our wedding is so small (only 35 guests total). I have a huge family and most of them have verbally declined but I’m hoping they don’t suddenly have a change of heart once the invites go out!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I just got my first RSVP back. We invited 2 and they wrote 6 on the card. I never believed that would actually happen to me. So YES, we’re gonna need some "no"s — or we’ll never fit everyone into our 200-person-sized reception space!<!–Session data–>

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lmariea-Oh my!  That is crazy girl, how are you going to handle that?!  

We haven’t set out our invitations yet, but I know I will feel the same way.  FI’s parent have invited a good amount of their friends, who I have never met before.  A lot of them are not from the area, and I have no ties to these people.  FI doesn’t have ties to them either, so a few less people would not bother me at all!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Imariea – WOW!  2 turned into 6.  I would definitely have to make a phone call on that one seeing as how you noted that you do have limited space.  What if everyone you invited decided to add even just 1 person.  

I might flip completely out if someone wrote 6 on my response card when 2 were invited.   

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You are absolutely not terrible for this. I will have the same reaction once my RSVPs start rolling in. I would like my final guest list to total between 200 and 220 (max) adults. Right now I have invited a total of 279 guests (adults & children).  Children under 6 are free for my venue which reduces the list down to the 250’s. The hall has a minimum charge for 200 so I want to get my money’s worth and I easily budgeted for the 200 – 220. I can come up with the money if the count is over 220 but I would like to save some money and use it for something else.

I know I invited a few more people than I should have but there is nothing I can do now. Oops…

 Either way it will still be a great time!

 

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