(Closed) Not saying fiancee/fiance?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve called my husband “boyfriend” before! I think its becuase that is what you have used the longest

Post # 4
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We both hate the word “fiance/fiancee” and I avoid saying it whenever I can hehe

Post # 6
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I avoided it a fair bit because I felt kind of pretentious using it around certain people, so with them I would just call him my boyfriend. Darling Husband went the other route and actually called me his wife on a number of occasions before we were married, lol.

Post # 7
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We never used the word much either. It just felt weird to say.  I usually just introduced him by his name.  He’d say something like, “This is my future wife, Neva.” 

Post # 8
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It took us literally months, too. Not because we forgot but because we hated the sound of the word… it just seems so stuffy. Eventually we crossed the threshold and now use it all the time…. and it sounds fine!

Post # 9
363 posts
Helper bee

I’m not officially engaged yet but I just don’t feel right calling my SO “boyfriend”.  He’s 38 years old and I’m 33.  I just feel silly saying my boyfriend.  I usually say “SO” or “partner”. Can’t wait to call him my husband!

Post # 10
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@linguo42: I feel the same way! I feel weird referring to him as my fiance to my apartment complex maintenance manager or someone like that. It makes me feel like I’m fishing for comments on my wedding. I am sure no one else would even notice, it just does feel a little pretentious sometimes. I don’t know why…that’s what he is!

Post # 11
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We HATED saying fiance/e….it sounded sooo pretentious! I said boyfriend all the time. But husband is my favorite of them all to say 🙂

Post # 12
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think we ever used those words. I dislike them, and Darling Husband agrees. Once we were engaged, it was “future husband” and “future wife” (or, on occasion, just “husband” and “wife”). 

Post # 13
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I HATE it! We almost never say it… I just say his name, or boyfriend still. Sometimes other people say it in reference to one of us, and it weirds me out a bit. Such a silly word!

Post # 14
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@PitBulLover: I know what you mean about it feeling pretentious! 

We are used to it now, but at first I would kind of mumble fiance when I’d reference Fiance. It also feels silly because it’s such a temporary word…so whenever you say it, everyone wants to ask you about your wedding, see the ring, etc. ect. Even if they’re total strangers!

Post # 15
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It took us a solid month to stop calling each other bf/gf.  And yeah, I agree that “fiance” sounds pretentious.

Post # 16
14345 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont like to say it either!  I didn’t for a few months and Fiance would be like. noooo. i’m not your Boyfriend or Best Friend.. i’m your…. and make me say it!  I just dont really like that word for some reason.

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