(Closed) Not seating teens with their parents?

posted 4 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@MrsBeck:  I think it’s a great idea. At that age they don’t want to sit with their parents. My son is 13 and he would much rather be at the other table, however I would keep a close eye on him so maybe make the table in close distance to the parents if possible:))

Post # 4
Hostess
11864 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsBeck:  the only teens at my wedding will be my cousins and I’m having a cousins table – both sides mixed together.  I don’t see a problem with it.  Honestly, the parents may not like it so much but I’m sure the teens would prefer it.  I always hated sitting at tables of adults when there were people my age at weddings at things, I would much rather sit with people my own age.  

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why don’t you just ask the parents what they think? Some teens would love it, others may not, some parents may be fine with it, others may not, everybody’s different, since it seems like it’s only one family, it should be an easy quick call and then you know for sure that you’re making the right decision 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

As a parent I’d probably prefer NOT to sit with my teens. But as a teen I hated when people would separate me from my mom. I never liked being made to socialize with others my own age in a forced situation. At social functions where I didn’t really know the other kids my age there I just preferred to be with my mom and siblings and just stay in my element. Even teens have different personality types, and like I said, I didn’t like being forced to sit with kids “my own age.” I don’t even like it now when people separate me from family because there’s some nice young couples on the other side of the room I should get to know. I just like to meet people on my own terms. Sorry this is kind of a long answer, but I can completely remember hating this type of thing as a teenager. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I would be quite upset of Teen LK were seated at another table. Upset enough to re-arrange your seating plan to suit my family. Seeing as I am generally a guest who will bend over backwards to not rock the boat, that is saying a lot.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BookishBelle:  +1

If you know the kids well and know that they’d prefer to be separated from their parents then go ahead and do it, then otherwise talk to the parents and ask them what they think would be best. Even now if I didn’t know someone else at the wedding I’d prefer to be seated with my mom than at a table with a bunch of strangers.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@luluvohn:  Yeah recently at a Bat Mitzvah my husband and I were seated with other 20-somethings…we didn’t know a single one of them and we would have much rather sat with my older family members! I’m sure the hosts meant well and thought they were being nice, but we just aren’t good w/ strangers and would have had a much better time talking to my aunts and uncles…

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@MrsBeck:  I would rearrange it to sit with my family and assure proper supervision of my teenager. We constantly have brides on here who complain about unsupervised kids and teens at their wedding. There is no way that I would allow a poorly planned seating arrangement to result in my kid being the one who is griped about. Therefore, I would take it upon myself to nip the situation in the bud before it had a chance to become problematic.

Post # 14
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

When I was a teenager, I loved being seated with other kids my age and away from the parents! Hehe. As for the parents, maybe they themselves wouldn’t mind some “adult only” time. Is there any way you could ask the family how they felt about the subject? I don’t know whether it’s considered a breach of etiquette or not to just ask but it’s the only way you can be absolutely certain everyone’s fine with where they’re seated. 

Post # 15
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1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My older brother seated my siblings (16 and 15) and I at a different table from our parents for his wedding when I was 17 and we survived. It was kind of nice since the top-shelf open bar was fabulous! Just food for thought.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Without having the time to read all the replies I am going to offer my opinion… I work at a banquet hall and let me tell you we all cringe at this idea.  If you have one “bad seed” at that table they will make a mess of it.  If you are having alcohol at your reception then you want an extra set of eyes on said teens also.  Read Mrs Darling’s post right above mine, point proven LOL

If you are allowing underage guests then they should be seated with their parents.  The family friends will have plenty of time to mingle after dinner.

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