Not sharing your baby's gender before shower gifts?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We are announcing the genders at our shower.  We’re hoping for practical, gender neutral items 😉

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm I like housebee’s idea of announcing gender at the shower if you are worried about getting clothes. I wouldn’t think people will get you TOO many, but it’s true people do like to buy cute baby clothes.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would think if you don’t announce the gender you would just get a bunch of yellow and green clothes instead of pink or blue. I think most people buy clothes for showers instead of actual practical things. It’s kind of annoying and why I always try to buy practical stuff for other people.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

DH and I have already agreed that we won’t be sharing the sex at all – partly just because we want to keep it as something that’s just between the two of us for awhile, but also partly for just that reason.  We don’t like super gendered stuff, and feel it makes more sense to get neutral items that can be reused for future babies, so if people want to get us gifts we’d prefer they get stuff we’d actually like and use.  And I do think people get sort of tunnel vision once they know the sex – they just want to buy cute clothes – whereas when they don’t know they’re more likely to actually get useful stuff.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper

Tomato22:  I agree, and I hate yellow and green!

We are having a boy but for several of the ladies that are due they are team green and will not know the sex until birth. I have tried to keep my eye out for gender neutral items and let me tell you they are few and far between. Yes you may find the ocassional cute yellow ducky pj’s or green turtle onsie but you are severely limited on what to get. Even the accessories and other items come in gender specific colors as well. I remember a relative registered for a baby bath tub and was having twins (one boy and one girl) and didn’t specify pink or blue for the bath tub. I wasn’t sure what color to get and opted for blue.

Needless to say as a shower guest I would appreciate having a little insight to know whether or not the gift I purchase is at all relevant.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am glad we’re not finding out… and this is one of those reasons. I love pink and blue but wouldn’t want every single item in pink or vice versa. I’ve been to a couple of showers and the mom to be always gets an overhelming amount of clothing in one colour. There are tons of gender neutral things out there IMO… I’ve already got some in my closet and they werent hard to find at all. Things like cloths, soothers and other practical items can all be bought in gender neutral colours. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

One of my girlfriends isn’t finding out for this same reason- shower gifts! I figured she will just get yellow stuff, but I could see that people would just buy non-clothing items instead. I like the idea of announcing at the shower, and that’s probably what I would do too!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My friend just did the same thing. She got the BEST stuff at her shower – baby bath things, a pack n’ play, a white noise machine, a monitor, a nosefrida, a breast friend pillow, and adorable primary colored cloth diapers. She’s having a boy but she said she’s so glad she didn’t say ahead of time, because people wouldn’t have gone so practical and might have bought lots of little sports jerseys or something. She announced after both of her showers – no gender reveal parties or anything, she just said. 

She only got one piece of clothing – an I Heart NY onesie! She was so excited she didn’t get a ton of clothes.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are team green and at our shower we hardly got any clothes at all, which actually worked out fantastically.  It kind of “forced” people to buy us the pratical and necessary things we needed instead of loads of pink or blue clothes that we would have been innundated with.  

As such, we have already received a ton of unisex hand me downs from my SIL so I’m even happier that we don’t know the sex because the first few weeks of baby’s life we are more the covered to clothes.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think when people find out you’re having a girl, they tend to go bizerk buying things girly and pretty..and if that isn’t your style, announcing the gender may be better to hold off on.

We announced the gender before my shower, and dear god, the stuff we got. It was a small shower (like less that 20 people) but I had to fill two vehicles with the stuff I got. Women just love to buy girly stuff. I did get a lot of pink, but that was ok with me 😉 I just got SO many clothes. I seriously had to buy nothing for the first 3-6 months of her life.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t stand pink. I’m defintely team neutral. I agree with your SIL. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This is one of the main reasons I don’t want to find out at all. lol We will hopefully have more than one child, and I’d like to be able to reuse as much as I can!

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is part of why I don’t want to find out gender if we get preggers! We’re not even planning more than one, I just don’t like gender specific things! I’d not share the gender and people can get whatever they want.

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