Not so happy waiting bee.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
204 posts
Helper bee

 Only all the time! Ugh I get to dagum hyper focused on the proposal it makes me wonder if I’ll lose all that excitement when it comes. My SO said he has good reasons why he hasn’t proposed yet. Does he even realize that if we still want to marry next May that it’d be a whole lot easier to plan If we had more time?  I mean really! 

Post # 4
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451 posts
Helper bee

I know (knowknowknowknow) it’s coming in 2-6 months.  Even though I know we are so enmeshed in our lives and relationship and that he definitely wants to move forward… he still hasn’t done it.  And as much as I trust him and our relationship there is this tiny, irrational fear in the pit of my stomach that since he hasn’t jumped to do it already that he is not sure or something.  There are some days I just want to tell him “just give me the diamond, I’ll go get it put in a setting myself and send you the bill”.  Kidding.  Kinda.

Post # 5
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72 posts
Worker bee

I hate the days I feel that way too…

I’m hoping for a holiday proposal…sometimes I think I might be right and other times not.  I’ve been doing the SIU pact for 20 days now (woohoo!) and normally when I’ve SIU for a good amount of time, my SO starts talking about marriage, kids, etc.  But lately…he hasn’t. Not sure if it’s b/c we haven’t been able to see each other much w/ crazy schedules or he’s trying to SIU himself!!

He’s very good at surprising me…I just really don’t want to be disappointed this year.  ARGH we can do this!!

Post # 6
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@Koifish:  Yes ma’am.  If my SO would have proposed anytime from April 2013-Sept 2013…I would not appreciate it as much as I would now.

I was depressed, angry, resentful, bitter…and I was bascially DEMANDING a proposal from my SO!! Yell  (The more I admit this and use that face, the better I feel getting it OUT lol!!)

Here’s what you don’t want to be like:

1)  I know someone who *finally* [in their mind] got a proposal..and everytime she announced her proposal for the next two months or so it was followed by ‘And he made me wait four years!  Can you believe it?  For effing years!’. Cue the uncomftorable laughter. 

2)  I know someone else who *allegedly* only got a proposal because of her depression and threatened to leave her guy.  She found out that her BFF got engaged, and she came down with some sort of sickness and couldn’t get out of bed for days.  He had a very elaborate dinner proposal planned…and she refused to go out with him.  He then proposed to her while she was in bed.  And now everyone in her family and at her wedding kept making terrible comments about it.

DON’T BE LIKE THESE WOMEN!

Hang in there.  Waiting is hard, but it doesn’t have to be depressing.  It’ll happen when it’s supposed to…and if you can manage to handle it with enough grace, your friends and family will be happy FOR you instead of talking crap about you behind your back! Smile

Post # 7
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yes, I have been feeling like that recently.  I don’t normally feel that way, but it is slowly creeping up on me.  It’s concerning, honestly.  He was in a great mood last night and very happy and smiling…and I felt like my smiles and laughs weren’t genuine because I am in such a downer spot right now that he hasn’t proposed to me.  It makes me worried that when (if?) he does, I won’t be excited at all.  Argh, I wish this feeling would go away!

Post # 8
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816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Koifish:  I’m so sorry you feel this way! Can you explain it a bit more?

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