Post # 1
Because I have a feeling I can fill a few entries with vents recently LOL! So… VENT AWAY. Even if it’s silly and you think people don’t care. VENT!
I have a guy friend. We briefly dated when I was in college and he was in high school (craddle robber!!).. BRIEFLY…
He tends to get VERY attached to women VERY quickly. And that’s fine. But he’s one of those friends who won’t talk to me if he’s seeing someone but the moment they break up he’s calling me obsessively to listen to his woes.
Last time he and his longer-term gf broke up was March. He was calling me a bit too much and was going to come into town to see family (he moved south a while back). He wanted to see me but thought it would be hard because he would really want to be with me. WHAT???
I explained no. It wouldn’t be hard because I am very happy in my relationship. But if he felt that way it was probably best we not hang out.
A week later he started seeing a new girl he just met. Finally a woman his age (the other one was very young. 18 I think?
He and the new woman got engaged in July.
They are to be married in March (about a week after my wedding). Now, whenever I post ANYTHING wedding related (which is rare but sometimes I do).. he posts “I’m not far behind you!”
I want to post “You’ve known her FOUR months. KNOWN her 4 months. I’ve known my fiance since we were 15. We’ve been dating 2 years. We’ve been engaged since May. Don’t compare us!”
I don’t know why this annoys me. But it does.
There’s my vent. Your turn!
Post # 3
Ugh, that is annoying! Seems like those “dated briefly” guys are always the hardest to get rid of 😛
Alright, here’s mine because I need to vent:
I swear to God, if this priest doesn’t call me back (like today!) I am going to find another church and another priest, and just eat the cost of the invitations we’ve already sent out. This isn’t the priest Fiance grew up with, it’s not the priest I went through RCIA with. We have no personal attachment to this priest. In fact, he did our Engaged Encounter and we couldn’t stand him! It wasn’t our choice for our beloved priest to retire. Nor was it our choice to have this one randomly take over for him (seriously, how did that even happen?!) Now on top of just being rude and arrogant, he has decided any wedding decisions we had previously made must be discussed again with him. No, we are not allowed to talk to Sister (who we had previously been doing a lot of work with) only him. Oh but he’s going to take a month-long vacation right after he starts as our new Priest and he’ll probably get back to us at the beginning of August. Well here it is, the end of August, and no phone call. Not only no phone call, but he won’t return our calls. I’ve had it. I’m having the worst stress dreams over not having any of the ceremony planned, and he can’t be bothered to sit down and talk to us. I’m seriously just ready to have the wedding somewhere else. But this is our home church, why should we have to move? He should move. Grr.
Post # 4
@swanks4tw:Oh dear! Can you contact your former priest and ask if he’d step in to do the ceremony for you??
Post # 5
Omg I love venting 🙂
My cousin’s wife keeps texting me asking for the distance between the church and the reception, the reception and the random hotel they chose, the hotel and church… I feel like screaming “I’m not freaking mapquest!!!! Google it yourself!!!”
Post # 6
CindyRelly, we asked Sister if *our* priest could just do the wedding for us and she said she didn’t think *new priest* would let us do that. She seems almost afraid of him (everything she said was whispered, like she was afraid he’d hear us) She actually told us we have to do whatever *new priest* tells us to do. We can’t argue with him or say “well this is what we want.” Those were her words. I’m terrified at this point.
Post # 7
@PinkPinstripes:OMG can you write it out and mail it to her and then ignore texts asking? LOL!
Ok I have another. FH does NOT get along with his sister. He tries but she doesn’t seem interested.
His cousin told me recently she’s SO upset our wedding is on St. Pat’s day. ESPECIALLY in the evening. She just can’t believe we’d do that since she has PLANS!
I told him that she really didn’t have to come if she had more important things to do…. in SEVEN MONTHS (at the time)
THEN FH’s mom said about a week later “so when is the wedding?”
She knows when the wedding is. We’ve told her many times….SAME day 2 of her brothers got married years ago! but I said St Patty’s Day! She said oh… I wish you guys wouldn’t have set it and would have talked to me first about that. Not to mention we DID tell her we were thinking of that date before we set it. Apparently it didn’t matter til (i’m guessing) her daughter started complaining about it.
WHY? Because we’d change it? We’d get married on the date you and your daughter chose???? SERIOUSLY!?
She also said that she already had a venue picked for our reception but nevermind since I already put a holding fee on the place I’ve always known I wanted mine.. A friend of my family owns a beautiful reception hall.
She wanted us to have it at a VFW by her. No offense to those who have had their reception at the VFW but I’m doing JOP for the ceremony. I’m spending my money on the reception and VFW doesn’t do it for me.
Post # 8
@swanks4tw:OMG find a new priest…. or find the new one and tell him what’s going on… FAST! This isn’t who should marry you at ALL! *hugs*
Post # 9
@PinkPinstripes: OMG, I got SO many of those the DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING! I’m in traffic running around like damn chicken with my head cut off and people keep calling/texting with random questions.
One person was asking me for the THIRD time what time the rehearsal was that night. The same time the last time you called. and the same that’s in the email you got last week.
One was my cousin asking what time the ceremony/reception were and where they were at. Did you even glance at the invitation that clearly spelled it out and gave you directions? Or did you not think to call my mom or call sooner than the day before?
@swanks4tw: you are asking for a service. He should provide it with a happy attitude. I’d seriously check if the retired priest would marry you – just tell the new one that you have such a history with the retired one that you’d love it if he could do that. I’m not Catholic (DH is) but I know at my church after a favorite pastor retired, he still came back to do a couple funerals for close parishoners and a couple weddings too.
Post # 10
BAH! That drives my Fiance crazy!! He tells people “Pick up your iPhone and google maps it”!
My Future Mother-In-Law forwarded me an address for the guest list. She forwarded the original one too, which was to her friend and it said “Hey I am being nagged, get me address” so I tell my Fiance that I feel bad that she feels like I am nagging her, and that I also don’t agree with how she just forwards things haphazardly like that! So then he says: “Well that’s mom, and you know South African’s say things differntly!” I DO know all of this, but more times than not, we are always saying “well that’s mom! she just doesn’t think before she speaks!” It got under my skin yesterday and I said “Well nagging means something different in America and she’s been here for 13 years!” Ha! Anyway, point is, I just get a little annoyed when we always have to revolve around Future Mother-In-Law and give her a free pass for being offensive (which she is a lot of the time, LOL).
Post # 11
@CindyRelly: Family draa sucks.
I’m so frustrated with my SO parents..mainly his dad. I’m sick of them leeching off my SO and always asking to borrow money. I just want to yell at him and tell him to his s___ together! I’m more upset of the way he went about asking this last time. Instead of asking nicely and being grateful he was as ass about it and was like “if you don’t let me borrow the money we’re going to be evicted” First off all.. I’m sorry but that’s too bad, learn how to manage your money!
Post # 12
The priets issue would annoy the piss outta me!
Here is my rant: Fiance is in grad school and super stressed right now and working his but off in prep for his prelims, so I have taken over ALL of the household stuff….honestly, he comes home to eat dinner and then goes back up to work. I can never bitch to him about this because he has enough to stress about. But I am the one working THREE jobs so we can save enough money for this wedding. I am the one who moved to this tiny-ass town where I am underemployed..and working multiple jobs so we can have the wedding and honeymoon we want. Is it to much to freakin ask to put away the GD laundry every once in a while?
Argh! OK, rant over. Movin’ on.
Post # 13
I’m tired of my (otherwise wonderful) Darling Husband bitching about his job. Sometimes I just want to snap “At least you HAVE a job!!” And he doesn’t appreciate just how good a job it is for him. I get that it’s frustrating to be in an entry-level position at 34, but that’s what happens when you quit a PhD program without finishing it! I supported him (emotionally, not financially) for a year of unemployement before this job came along. I view it as a GODSEND. All he can see are the negative aspects of it. It’s so frustrating. Can’t you just count your damn blessings?!!
Post # 14
Oohh venting! I was supposed to me my DOC yesterday so she could pick up my favors that are chocolate and can’t be stored at the reception venue. I forgot to bring them with me to work so I rushed home to pick them up. Found a perfect parking spot to get in the back of our condo. Got to the back doors and they were broken and I needed to run to the front. Got all my favors and got back to work. I called an hour later to confirm that we were meeting that night, and she goes “OMG, I totally forgot, can we do it another night?” I gritted my teeth and politey said yes and she’s picking them up Friday from my condo. They are still here at work though because I don’t want them to melt in my car and I have so many wedding errands to run after work everyday I can’t take them home! Grrrrrr…
Post # 15
@Rock Hugger: When are his prelims? Unless they’re within the next month, tell him he needs to step it up at home – this isn’t sustainable for you. (I know whereof I speak – I’m a few months away from getting my PhD.) It’s good that he’s working so hard, but he needs to establish a workable schedule, because he’s got several more years of hard work/long hours in front of him, even if there’s a temporary reprieve after his exams. It’s not fair of him to put everything else on you.
Post # 16
why is he even ON your facebook!?