Post # 1
I’m going to do a wedding website with an RSVP section on it, and I’m wondering if people RSVP online before we send out invites (which they might do because of family telling them about the website, STDs, etc) is it ok not to put a stamp on the RSVP enclosed in the invite? I realize this is probably a stupid question but…just thought I’d put it out there. I’d rather people RSVP on the website and I didn’t want to do RSVP cards at all, but my parents insist…
Post # 3
hmm i think that is reasonable that if they have already used the website you can skip the stampo since otherwise it might just be a waste of money. Could you get a rubber stamp that looks like a postage stamp or something that says thanks for your RSVP! I bet you could have a custom rubber stamp made for ~$10. So it wouldn’t save any money but it could be cute!
Post # 4
We did RSVPs online, and we didn’t include RSVP cards at all. We just included our home phone number so people who didn’t feel comfortable going online had another option. Almost everyone RSVPed online (even my 90 year old great aunt!). I bring this up because it kinda seems like a waste of money (and paper) to send out cards that won’t even be used if everyone RSVPs online…
Obviously that didn’t answer your question, though. I think, if someone RSVPs online before the invites are out, I wouldn’t even include a card in their invitation. Otherwise it might confuse them, like why did you send them a card to RSVP (stamp or no) if they have already done it. They might think their RSVP didn’t go through or something, and then you’d end up with two.
Post # 5
I think it really depends on the tradition/style of you, your family, your wedding (formal, or laid pack, tradition/etiquette-ridden or casual). Esp for guests who have rsvped, I don’t think a reply card is even necessary.
I do not plan to include RSVP card for any1 (hence no stamping) except for ppl who are of an older generation and who still do not have easy online access. I also plan to include URL of the website in the invitation so everything should be self-explanatory. Some ppl who have rsvped even told me via the website not to bother sending them a paper invitation (yay for me & trees).
Post # 6
I don’t think there is an etiquette rule to apply here — if they RSVP’d to your wedding, to which they had not (yet) been invited, leave out the card and the stamp! It will save you money and save them confusion. I like the idea, though, of including a note thanking them for the reply, even just on a small piece of paper.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t include the stamp, but I’d still include the card and envelope in case they want to do the old fashioned way.
Post # 8
i think i would include the stamp either way – it really won’t cost too much extra for the added convenience of your guests. i think it cost us around $50 for ‘forever’ stamps and what we didn’t use, we can still use on our other mail (BILLS). i would agree with the other bees and say don’t do stamps, but i think it is still important to make it easiest on your guests no matter how they choose to respond.
here’s a crazy thing. we were way late on sending out our invites. seriously, we just sent them out less than 2 weeks ago for our June 6th wedding – with an rsvp date of May 15th. We have already received over 50% back – and almost everyone wrote a sweet note on our cards.
Post # 9
I Say go against common etiquette here. If they have already RSVP’d by the time you send out the invites, don’t include the card. If they have not, include a card with a stamp.
Post # 10
I agree. If you’re going to do online RSVP’ing, provide a phone # too, and don’t send out any physical RSVP cards. I was afraid to do this and now I regret not doing it. It would’ve saved me stamp money, money in overall weight of the invite, and my poor friends from procrastinating on giving me a reply.
Post # 11
I mixed it up- I told everyone about RSVP’ing online. The older folks that most likely don’t use the internet, I included a stamp. The people in my mom’s generation and my own that are often on the internet- no stamps. All got rsvp cards and envelopes since they already came with the invitation package, and I also wanted everyone to know how many seats they were allotted. I included a line that said:
"we have reserved ____ seat/s in your honor"
I thought this was important because too many people have children and/or other friends that they might assume are invited but are not and our list is huge to begin with. So far, people have started rsvp’ing online. We’ll see how it pans out since mine just went out in the past week.