Post # 1
So I really like to crochet and whenever a friend has a baby I always give them a handmade crocheted blanket as a gift, along with a few other things (like if they’re registered I’ll buy some of the more practical things like diaper cream and baby shampoo and wipes and diapers or whatever on their registry). I usually end up spending around $30-80 depending on if I get the yarn on a good sale when I feel like starting the blanket and how close I am with the person (close friends and family I tend to spend a little more on).
My dilemma is with a friend of mine who is expecting and due any day now. She also crochets. And knits. And sews. And is constantly posting photos of stuff she’s made the baby. And while the blankets I make are nice, they’re no where near as good as what she’s made.
I’m not sure since she’s made such beautiful stuff for her baby if I should bother with a blanket or not for her. Part of me says to not bother since it probably won’t get used over the beautiful stuff she’s made. But another part of me is worried that she’ll think I don’t like her as much since I didn’t give her the same handmade gift I give everyone else!
Adding to my anxiety is the fact that one person whom I recently gave my ‘usual’ gift too told a mutual friend of ours that she thought it was ‘cheap’ of me to not spend as much money on a gift and giving a home made item instead. I was so incredibly hurt by this especially since the first person I made a blanket for raved about it and even used it for her professional baby photos! Now I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to do this or not…. Any advice? Should I just buy stuff from the registry and forget the blanket?
Post # 3
@futuremrste: Unfortunately, some people don’t appreciate the time (and love) that goes into handcrafting with knitting, crocheting, sewing, quilting. Unless I know someone will appreciate the effort, I’ve taken to just buying something off their registry.
As you know this person does understand the gesture, is something she hasn’t already made? Receiving blanket? Quilt as decoration for the nursery?
Post # 4
@fascinated: I’m thinking she will appreciate it since I know she often gives blankets as gifts as well. It’s just a fairly simple square shell patterned crocheted blanket. I can’t seem to find the link to the pattern right now, but it’s very similar to this one… http://www.yarnspirations.com/pattern/crochet/textured-baby-blanket I’m not even sure what one would use the blanket for (I don’t have kids). It is very cold here though so I’d imagine that the more blankets the better, since they’ll get dirty…
Post # 5
@futuremrste: I think you should make it, even if she makes, what you think, are “nicer” blankets. Maybe your blanket can be the one she brings to the beach or park. I’m sure that if you spent the time to make it, she will find a way to use it.
And about that other ungrateful “friend” … she can shove it!
Post # 6
I love the sentiment behind any homemade gift. I would give the blanket you’re making!! So sorry your other friend in the past said that was “cheap”…she obviously doesn’t understand sentiment! And even if the new mama also knits and crotchets, I bet she would love your gift. I crochet scarves with a good friend of mine, and we have “gifted” them to each other for birthdays and stuff- I have never thought twice about it!
Post # 7
I would make the homemade gift and ignore the brat that complained. 🙂
I have homemade blankets from family friends that I still treasure.
Post # 8
That’s a beautiful pattern. I’m more towards the quilting side of handcrafting, and I don’t crochet, so don’t know the answer, but is there a way to personalize it with initials or something?
Post # 9
I would make her one! Since she does it as well she will appreciate the time and thought that goes into it!
Post # 10
@futuremrste: I knit crochet and sew as well and would be so pleased if someone crocheted a blanket for my kid! She will know more than anyone the time and love that goes into it.
Post # 11
I think she will appreciate it! And I have to say, it pisses me off when people do not appreciate gifts that are handmade or think they are cheap! Time cost is huge! If it takes you 5 hours, that’s like $100+ there, plus materials for crafty stuff are NEVER cheap.
Post # 12
I knit and crochet too, and if/when I have children I would love it if someone went to the time and effort of making me something for the munchkin. Maybe, instead of a blanket, you make an article of clothing or two (booties/hat)?
As for the friend who was ungrateful, I’m dreading the day that comes up because a handmade blanket is my go-to gift for baby showers, and it seems like all of my friends are getting pregnant right now.
Post # 13
I think that as a knitter/crochet-er, your friend will totally appreciate the time, effort and love that goes into making a baby blanket. Even if hers are more elaborate, I think you should definitely go for it. I know I would love a handmade gift like that!
Post # 14
@futuremrste: The blanket you’re thinking of making for your friend is beautiful! I would love to receive such a gift and I think any person who handmakes anything, from jewelry to knit blankets, knows how much time, love and effort goes into each item and appreciates it all the more. Even though you think your friend makes nicer things than you do, she may think the opposite and like yours better – people are usually more critical of our own skill, or at least that’s my experience.
Btw, I think the person who thought you were “cheap” to give a handmade gift was VERY rude. I’ve had that same thing happen to me before and I agree with you, it’s extremely hurtful. Unfortunately some people know no such thing as sentimental value. It’s their loss, really. I would give them a box of the cheapest chocolate next time – if anything at all!
I think your friend who knits will be very happy to receive a blanket from you. Have fun making it 🙂
Post # 15
Some people just don’t “get” what goes into a handmade gift. The cost of supplies (which alone is often more than a bought item), the time, the energy. Your friend is going to be the opposite of that – she is going to know exactly how much went into that blanket. For awhile, I had a bunch of people that I was knitting baby gifts for and found myself in the same situation – one of the moms was a knitter. I almost didn’t make her anything. I am so glad I changed my mind – the blanket I knit coincidentally was a pattern she had been eyeing but was very sad that she ran out of time/energy to make. AND I still see pictures pop up of the kid carrying the blanket around – warms my heart every time.
Post # 16
I treasure the handmade blankets/quilts my little guy got, even though some were “nicer” than others, or matched his nursery better. It’s great to be able to tell him (even though he doesn’t really understand yet), that this blanket was from Baba, or this one is from Mommy’s friend. I think it’s special and sweet.