Post # 1
This is my first post, but I have been stalking the boards for a while.
Back in January I went dress shopping and after a marathon session I ended up purchasing Allure 8526 in diamond white. I didn’t have the happy, this is it moment. The only tears came the next day when I had a meltdown when my fiance asked me if I was excited about my dress.
This weekend I will go for my first fitting and I am so nervous. I have almost been dreading this day, that it will confirm that I made a wrong decision.
Anyone else feel the same way? How did you handle it? I don’t want to sike myself out of this dress since I don’t have any other options or funds to purchase a second one 🙁
The pic is me in my dress and my sis in her bridesmaid dress, we were trying them on when I was trying to decide which bm dress to go with. Their dress is going to be a cinnamon color.
Post # 3
the dress looks beautiful on you! I personally would not have my bride’smaid dresses look so similar to my own dress, feel like it takes away from my shine. Either way it looks bautiful on you but it would be better if you stood out more. For instance I already decided that I want my bride’s,aids in knee length dresses and my dress will have more poof to it.
As you said it’s too late to change your mind, you will have to wow it with nice hair and make-up. the dress looks beautiful on you.
Post # 4
The dress looks really pretty on you. I would recommend just dressing it up with some accesories. However, it seems as though your BM dresses are your dress just in a different color and it takes away from you. Have you thought about changing the bridsmaid gowns to a little more casual or even tea length?
Post # 5
I have changed my mind on my dress 4 times. It is never too late unless its the day of IMO. I would check out used dress sites if your into designer gowns or DB will let you take one off the rack.
I think its your only chance to wear a wedding dress it better be one that you LOVE
Post # 6
I think your dress is very elegant and timeless, but my opinon doesn’t help much if you dont like your dress. Lots of brides second guess themselves about their dress because its such a huge and expensive purchase. And there is so much pressure to look PERFECT.
What are you fears and concerns about your dress? Is it because you didn’t have the “OMG” moment? Thats ok, lots of brides dont, I know I didnt. Are you afraid there is a better dress out there and you missed out on it?
The best way to handle the situation is to go to your first fitting and see if you fall in love with your dress, you just might. You might realize its perfect and you are just stressing for no reason. But if you still have doubts, try to focus on what the problem is, and that will allow you to figure out what your options are.
Post # 7
I love your dress! I think it would look gorgeous with a beaded belt at the empire! and maybe a really cute flower headpiece and some big blingy jewelry!! I don’t know if you like sweetheart necklines but I also think when you have alterations adding a sweetheart neckline would jazz it up a bit also! 🙂 You look beautiful!!!
Post # 8
I think your dress is so pretty and looks perfect on you. How about adding some stones or bling? It’s so simple and it won’t cost you that much? Just a thought…. but the siloute looks perfect on you!
Post # 9
Oh my god…that was my dress! Good choice! 🙂 In all seriousness though, when I tried it on, I knew I wanted it, but I went through months of doubt afterward, and wasn’t even 100% sure until after I had my first fitting and saw how it looked. I showed people pictures of it in magazines, and nobody seemed to like it. Once I had it fitted to me though, it looked amazing, and so different than the pictures. I LOVED it! I fully prepared myself for the fact that people may not like my dress, but on my wedding day, and in the weeks afterward, people keep making comments about how much they loved my dress. I figure people wouldn’t be commenting weeks afterward if they didn’t mean it. I personally didn’t like the train (we were having a casual wedding), so I wore it bustled all night because I loved the extra flair it gave to the dress on the bottom.
I say hold out until your fitting, and see how you feel once they have it pinned and fitted to your body. If after that you are still not feeling it, you could always sell the dress and find another one. You want to feel beautiful on your wedding day!
Good luck. 🙂
Post # 10
The dress is beautiful on you, but because it’s so similar to the BM dress but the BM dress is a bright color, it actually pulls attention to the BM. Accessories can solve that of course.
Post # 11
I think your dress is very beautiful and elegant! What is it exactly that you dont like?
I agree with pat291 on this… I think your BM dresses are too close to yours….maybe this has somthing to do with it? Could you be questioning it because you feel you don’t stand out compared to them? If so, maybe you can change the BM dresses, if you havent bought them already….OR add something to your dress like a little bling with a Belt or sash or really cute shoes…Having your jewelry and a veil on sometimes helps to complete the whole picture as well!
Dont get discouraged, almost every bride has felt this way at one point or another. I think you look gorgeous and no matter what your FI and everyone else will think so too!
Post # 12
I think it is beautiful, and I love the back! Try it on with some jewelry and a nice veil or headpiece. Don’t be upset, you look great!
Post # 13
I agree I definitely like your dress, but maybe do something different for the bridesmaids (short and fitted or long and flowy – something that makes you stand out).
Post # 14
I agree with the others. Your dress looks great on you but I would have chosen bridesmaids dresses that looked different from yours. I just checked your date and it is a little close to change your dress or your bridesmaids especially if you’ve already paid for them/have them and have no way of returning/exchanging. I think adding embellishments to your dress via accessories would add more oomph and set it apart from the others like a beaded sash or bib necklace. Or even just a more defined sweetheart neckline would set you apart from the bridesmaids.
Post # 15
I agree with what most people seem to be saying. Your dress looks great on you. 🙂 Maybe once you get your accessories on and picked out you will like it a little more. Also I agree with most people too that the BM dress seems too similiar to your dress. If this is something you want to change and if it is too late to pick out a different dress, maybe you can get it altered to a shorter length??
Post # 16
This was the first dress I tried on and I left that day thinking it would be the one I came back to. When I did go back, I wasn’t sure and eventually ended up going with a different one.
That being said, I think this is an awesome dress! Most importantly, you look great in it! I was planning on purchasing a sash to be added. Take a look on etsy, there are so many! There are so many options with this dress!