(Closed) Not sure how to approach this dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

You’re not wrong for doing black dresses in the first place, but you shouldn’t have agreed to do black and blue dresses if you were not going to go through with it.

Post # 4
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

You let them deal with your decisions. Its a color for god sakes, its not like your wearing the same wedding dress as her. You shouldn’t have to settle on something you’re not happy with just because her bridesmaids are wearing the same color. 

ETA: And they’re black! It’s not like its some very specific shade of orange or pink or whatever. Do your FIL’s realize how many BP’s wear black? 

Post # 5
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would sit down and talk with them about it. You could explain how you always had wanted long black dresses for your wedding just as much as she probably wants to have short black dresses for hers. It is not fair for you to have to change your wedding dreams to appease her considering your wedding is 4 months before hers. I honestly don’t think anyone is going to remember that you had black dresses in your wedding. You could also discuss how bridesmaids wearing black is fairly trendy. I don’t know I just think that is ridiculous! I am getting married in March and my FI’s cousin who got engaged after me and is getting married after me as well (in June) chose the same wedding colors as I did. I don’t own them and I could care less that see is using them. She does not own the concept of black bridesmaids dresses. If all else fails, tell her to shove it. I’m just kidding, but really best of luck to you! 🙂

Post # 6
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46157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sit down with them and have a talk

 After all, these people are going to be relatives and you have to get along.

I still think though that you shuld carry on and plan your wedding as you would like it to be. Just let them know.

Post # 8
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Because two brides have never had similar dresses at their weddings?

Give me a break.  Your SIL gets ONE day and so do you.  Do what you want.  Just remind your SIL that imitation is the most sincere form of flattery.

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