- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
…to him why I need a ring.
BF is a computer programmer, and a very practical man. For my birthday last year, he bought me the lap top I’d been wanting (I’m a photographer and needed it to do more efficient editing). Then for Christmas he got me camera equipment…same with valentine’s day…you get the picture. I’m so incredibly grateful for all of these thoughtful gifts and that he’s such a sweet man that he would think to get me these things that I really needed, but at some point, I just really need the one thing that I want: aka: THE RING!
Recently he told me that he was going to propose in just a couple months after he paid a litle more off on his credit card. But then last week he went out an got us a Mac desktop computer for our office (for his programming and my editing), which came out to the exact same price as my ring he has picked out, and he put it on his credit card.
I’m trying not to sound so selfish and bitter–I’m really not–because I know how lucky I am to have such a sweet, thoughtful man, but like I said, he is VERY practical. Please don’t think me ungrateful, and I’ve certainly never been the slightest bit materialistic. It’s just that at some point, I just need the one thing that isn’t practical (in his mind).
So, last night, I told him that it kind of hurt my feelings in a way that he went out and bought something so expensive when he’s been saying for the past year that the reason he hasn’t proposed yet is because of money and buying the ring. I told him how it made me think that there was another reason he wasn’t proposing and made me worry a little. He assured me that there was not other reason, and he just knew that we really needed this new computer and whatnot…
Then he asked me if I would take the computer as my “ring” and we could just go ahead and get married. As nice as that would be, I need to have a ring. I’m not a very traditional girl AT ALL, but in this one aspect I am, and I just really do need a ring (I’ve tried before to convince myself that I didn’t b/c he’s made similar offers before, but I just really do).
The problem, however, is that I just couldn’t find a way to explain to him why I needed a ring. That’s where you come in, my lovely ladies. 🙂 How would you explain such a thing to your man (or my man ;)? My BF and I are best friends, and I feel like we’re totally in sync in everything but this one explaination. i just need a way to try and help him understand why I need something so bad that seems so “un-useful” or “impractical” in his eyes.
I did try to give him a few reasons last night as to why I needed a ring, but I’m not sure he totally gets those either. We met online, so we don’t really have a cute “how we met” story. Like I told him, I really want a cute “how he proposed” story to tell people when they ask. And you know that the minute I tell all my girl friends we’re engaged, they’re ganna want to see the ring. I can’t very well carry a computer around on my hand. Besides that it’s just something that I really want. I couldn’t figure out last night, however, how to explain why I want a ring.