Post # 1
I’m not sure how to feel about rings. The SO and I have decided to marry and have begun planning a wedding. He orginally proposed with the promise of an “engagement camera” that I’d been wanting (I’m a hobbyist, but had my eye on an expensive digital system for awhile). Well, my family got together as a whole and purchased the camera I’d been wanting as a gift in celebration of my completion of a Masters’ certificate program (I have two B.A.s which no one ever did anything special for, so they went all out on this).
Now, he would like to go traditional and get a ring. He’d orginally talked about the camera because I didn’t feel strongly about rings.
I don’t wear rings. I work more than 40 hrs. a week at a workplace that doesn’t allow bracelets or rings (although they do make exception for wedding rings and engagement rings). I wear cotton and nitrile gloves daily. I’m left-handed and don’t find most rings comfy because I write with my hand in an odd position compared to other lefties. Most of my jewelry is sterling silver and semi-precious stones make by local artisans and Native silversmiths. I already have a pair of diamond earrings, earrings being the only jewelry I wear daily. I only wear necklaces on special occasions because I wear my medical alert around my neck (because of the no bracelets at work thing).
Outside of work, I spend a lot of time cooking, cleaning, working out, painting, hiking, swimming, fishing, etc. I also have immune system issues and wash my hands frequently and worry about eczema from water under rings or germs remaining on the ring or hands.
He wants to get me something I will use or wear. His idea is that should he choose a ring I could potentially wear it to work, and if I couldn’t wear to work, that I would just wear it outside of work.
I have a hard time picturing myself wearing a ring at all, and I don’t want to dissappoint him or waste money on something that will sit in a box. That said, I also realize that this is my only opportunity to probably ever own a piece of jewelry like that and it seems to mean something to him.
Any thoughts ladies?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
@EllyG: do what feels comfortable for you, but maybe a simple band with a sentimental engravement in it would make a nice wedding ring?
Post # 4
I agree, just get a nice, simple, plain band. It’ll be less cumbersome if you do decide to wear it to work. If you decide not to, no harm no foul since it won’t break the bank.
Post # 5
@EllyG: I would definitively advise you to get one. It’s an important sign of marriage in our society. And you can get something really simple for really cheap! My w-band was $10.
Post # 7
@EllyG: My aunt has a beautiful sterling silver gemstone ring that she wears as an engagement ring. It’s all about what works for you!
Post # 8
I work in a lab and wear nitrile gloves on a regular basis, because of this we decided on a very low profile, bezel setting. If you decide you would like something with a stone, I’d recommend something like that. 🙂
Post # 9
I agree with @HellaCooper! I got a bezel solitaire setting that I love. I also work with gloves (and taking them on and off and on lol) and I have had no troubles with it snagging or ripping through. However if you want something very simple then I think a plain or engraved band would be awesome!
Post # 10
@EllyG: Rings aren’t for everyone. And you should do whatever feels most comfortable and right for you and your SO.
If you decided to get a ring, I like the suggestion that previous posters made about a simple band. Or maybe even a band with some engraving on it. If you got a fairly thin band, you probably wouldn’t have to worry about eczema from washing your hands with it on or germs underneath it. And it would be low profile enough that you could still wear gloves for your work. You could even get a beautiful and simple band in sterling silver. I wore a sterling silver band for many years, and it held up very well. (I’m a stay-at-home mom, so there’s a LOT of hand washing involved.)
Congratulations on your engagement!!
Post # 11
Definitely a bezel setting!
Post # 12
Get a cheap ring for engagement and a simple thin wedding band to wear alone when you get married
Post # 13
@EllyG: Definitely do what’s comfortable for you. Not having a ring won’t make you any less married once you’ve said the vows and signed the marriage license. It might be nice to have something simple to wear on special occasions, like a small bezel set stone or a cool engraved band. You can definitely find something for a good price, and I’m sure you could find something locally made. Your wedding band can be whatever you want it to be- it doesn’t have to be a diamond solitaire or even gold unless that’s what you want.
Post # 14
@prettyinpink11: that’s exactly what i had in mind.
@EllyG: i would suggest a bezel setting. it would be perfect for your job. even a bezel set eternity band may be all you want. i have one and it’s beautiful, comfortable and practical. i also wash my hands numerous times a day, sometimes 5-6 times in less than an hour depending what i am doing. i always remove my rings each time. wash your rings separately on occassion to keep them clean.
here’s a bezel set eternity band.
Post # 15
@EllyG: I feel you on the rings not being practical for work thing. I wash my hands 250 times a day because I work in health care. My original ering was opal, which wasn’t practical at all. My husband bought me a .25 diamond solitaire, and I love it. It really works for me.
I agree with PP about maybe a plain band if that is more your style. I also like the idea of a bezel set stone. It doesn’t have to be diamond either. It could be anything that is durable. Just look at what’s on these boards!
Here are some ideas:
Post # 16
What about something like this? It’s super thin and really pretty, when I wear it alone I forget I even have a ring on! it looks real and the silver is really nice and durable.