- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I just received a strange pseudo-RSVP and am a little weirded out by it. What do you make of this?
I invited an old college friend of mine and his sister to my wedding, even though we haven’t been close in years. We used to run in many of the same circles, but no longer live in the same city or hang out with the same people. Frankly, I wasn’t even sure they would come, but we used to be close and I wanted to include them, so I sent the invitation adressed to just them, the brother and the sister.
I figured, if they had a long-term SO they could ask to bring them and that would be fine, but I was against adressing any of our invitations as “John Doe + guest” because I didn’t want people to feel like the have to scramble to bring a date just to fill the +1. Of course, for people who I know have SOs, they were listed by name, but for people I’ve been out of touch with, I felt weird asking “hey, so you seeing anyone? is it serious?”
Anyway, I get a facebook message from my friend saying “hey, wanted to pseudo RSVP to you. Me, my sister, and my girlfriend will be coming, but my sister isn’t sure yet if she wants to ask a boy. We will let you know.”
UMMMMM…. *IF* she wants to ask a boy? *A* boy, not *the* boy? like any boy? just a random date? ERR…. is it me or is it rude of them to assume they can just bring a random boy?
If my friend has a Girlfriend and wants to bring her, that’s fine, and I also get that maybe the sister doesn’t want to be a third wheel, but it doesn’t appear that she has a SO, and is just looking for a random date and I think that’s weird and unacceptable. I don’t want her bringing some random guy just for the hell of it. Not trying to be mean or cheap, but there’s a reason we didn’t throw out “+1s” across the board.
Who’s in the wrong here and what do I say?