(Closed) Not sure how to go about this…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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22 posts
Newbee

Keep your timeline.

Post # 4
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1077 posts
Bumble bee

@Bigfatbummer:  +1

Just because you have a timeline doesn’t mean you have to follow it if/when the time comes. Besides, what if you change your mind closer to the date and want to keep the timeline? I think it woud be better to keep it for now (knowing you aren’t that serious about it) and take it away when the time comes if you need to then to possibly jerk your partner around. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@rescuepupmum86:  My advice is to explain it to him exactly how you just did. Tell him you love him and the life you have built, that engagement (soon) and marriage is still very important to you,  but that you are not ready to walk away from it all just because it may not be exactly when you want it. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@rescuepupmum86:  definitely tell him you have changed your mind about moving out but explain you havent changed your mind about wanting marriage. I think you can probably just be honest about it and make sure he understands your wants and needs clearly. Communication is key!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Honey, remember when I said that if we weren’t engaged by the time we signed the lease, that I was going to move out?  Well, I wanted to tell you that I love you and the life we live and I’ve changed my mind. I’m not planning on moving out.  I don’t want you to feel like I have to have a proposal by August or else I’m out, I don’t want to pressure you like that.  I want you to know that a proposal and marriage are still a top priority, but I think it’s something we should discuss together and come to a timeline we both agree on, rather than something that I force out of you with an ultimatum.  Can we talk about a timeline we both agree on?

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