(Closed) Not sure how to handle this (two issues here) – advice please!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m a type A personality so I would step in, call your cousin and be like “Hey I hope there isn’t any misunderstanding, we don’t have anything against your children, we have just chosen to do only nieces and nephews (maybe because you figure anyone able to babysit them will be at the wedding?).”

Post # 4
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would call yourself.  I only say that because you can’t control what your sister says and you really don’t want her to accidently (on purpose?) saying something that is not true or is confusing.  Who knows what will happen then!  Take the reigns on this one and tell your sister you will handle it and that you would appreciate if she directed any future wedding questions to you.  That is really the only way you can keep as much of the control as possible – plus then she can’t boss you around!

Post # 5
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think you need to call your cousin. He was obviously indirectly trying to ask if his kid could come, and your sister probably said something to the effect of “…I’m pretty sure, but I’ll have Oracle call you just in case” – and you said you would call, confirming what she had thought you would do. Now you’re flaking on the commitment she made on your behalf.

Sucks, but it reflects badly on you if you don’t act like the adult here and make the call, explain your reasons and tell your cousin yourself that you look forward to seeing him and his wife, but will have to find another time to get together with them and their kid.

Post # 6
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1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I feel you. We’re trying to keep it an adult only function. The only children that will be there are the children in the wedding. When it comes down to it, it’s your day. You don’t need to explain yourself. 

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