- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ah, another name change dilemma..
So I really really dont want to change my name, I have always made that completely clear. Its hard to explain but I guess its because I feel like we’re combining families, I am not becoming property of his. Also, I just like my name and wanted to keep it for other reasons. If we ever have children they will naturally take his name, again something i have been clear about.
He has no real reason for wanting me to change my name other than its tradition, and keeps throwing out ” its the ONE thing im asking you for”… Not true, im compromising on some pretty big life decisions for him, but its not worth going into, I don’t like rolling several dilemas or disagreements into one and dont want him to think im using them as “ammunition”.
So just recently Fiance has been passing comments like “well when you update your passport…” ect. So last night i decided to approach it, as its something we need to be clear on. It did not go well 🙁
Fiance has a habit of avoiding conversations he doesnt like, so his first response was “this is not the appropriate time to discuss it” Um, we are getting married in less than 5 months, when is the appropriate time?? We were only watching TV, so its not like I stormed him at work. He is not open to us both changing our name, me hyphenating or even changing my middle name, its his way or the high way. This makes me uncomfortable….
He then just stormed off, and has not really spoke to me since, 24 hours later he is currently hiding upstairs in his office and im wondering how we deal and move forward with this 🙁 we seem to be bickering ALOT lately, i hope its just pre wedding stress, but its really getting me down. Plus i’ll admit im a little stubborn, so i feel like im not the one who stormed off or is sulking, so he needs to come and open up the line of communication lol. Oh its going to be a looong weekend 🙁
Thanks for letting me vent x