- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I originally thought that I would only have one bridesmaid at my wedding but last month one of the people I feel most close to recently moved back from up North. She’s in her early thirties, 7 years older than me, and has 3 kids. She’s recently gotten out of a bad realationship but is very excited about my wedding, when I told her that our ceremony would be “family only” and at a botannical garden she said she’d pay her own admission just to see me get married. I’ve known her for about 6 years but we’ve only gotten close in the past 3, despite this I feel like she’s one of the only people I’ve been able to have a true, close, connection with as an adult. I plan to pay for most of my girl’s accessories and at least half or all of their dresses if I can so money shouldn’t be an issue. The biggest problem is that I’ve known her younger sister for about as long and have actually spent more time with her younber sister BUT we’re not as close. I’m afraid of hurting feelings/jealousy or damaging their relationship in anyway. I know that my friend would tell me that it’s not about her younger sister and she can get over it but I would feel guilty regardless. I’ve thought about making her a bridesmaid box and mailing it to her with a letter explaining that even if she declines, which she is free to do, I just wanted her to know how important she is in my life and that if she is able I would love for her to be by my side, we live in different towns and I’m not sure the next time I’ll see her so mailing seems like a good option. My question is whether or not I should risk asking her and dealing with hurt feelings, which I KNOW will be there. My other concern is that I might lose her sister as a friend who I do enjoy going out with because she’s a fun person to be around but she really close to me. I’ve been trying to figure out what I want to do for about 3 months and I just can’t come to a conclusive decision so I thought I’d open it up to opinions.