(Closed) Not sure if I'm MOH.. help!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t start any planning until you at least know who the other bridesmaids are so you can coordinate. Can you just ask the bride and tell her you want to start planning the shower? Don’t mention anything about the Maid/Matron of Honor title. Maybe she’ll get the hint that you’re anxious for more details about her plans 🙂

Post # 4
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

In this case, I think it’s totally fine to just ask her directly, “Who is your maid of honor?” I think sometimes, when brides want to be very “laid back” it actually becomes confusing to everyone else.

For better or for worse, people need guidance. The bride has to be a little bit of a leader in that respect.

As long as she knows that you won’t be upset if you’re NOT the Maid/Matron of Honor, I don’t think there is any harm in just aking. 

I am all for straight-talking. LOL

Post # 6
1431 posts
Bumble bee

I’d just wait it out. You have plenty of time to plan a shower. If time goes by and you still don’t know- ask her for a list of names of the MOH/BM’s so you can email them and coordinate a shower for you. Every shower I’ve thrown has been a group effort with all the BM’s involved but if they are all out of state and its a destination wedding they may not come to the shower at all which would make you primary planner.

Post # 7
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

It seems like she just recently got engaged, so you have a little while before needing to throw the shower. Ask the bride “who is your maid of honor? I’d love to know!”

Post # 8
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would wait to see whoo she chooses to be the Maid/Matron of Honor. If it is you, then by all means, start planning. If it is not you, I thinki t would be perfectly acceptable to offer help to the Maid/Matron of Honor, seeing as you are closer to where the party will be held.

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