(Closed) Not sure if it's me…

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

not every bride gets that feeling, i didnt have a OMG this is the one, i did however LOVEEEE my dress. and i stopped trying on more dresses, but i could have easily fallen in love with other dresses, i did know what feel i wanted for my wedding, and my dress suited it, and thats what mattered most to me, and thats what im most excited about, some brides go ga ga over the dress, other over the over feel/look of the wedding or maybe something else. Have you asked yourself or thought about what your fave part will be yet?

Post # 4
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I can definitely say it’s not you. I know of bees here that went through the same thing, as I did too. I think it’s common that sometimes you end up with something that you didn’t totally expect. 

My shopping experience, I was trying out lots of lace trumpet/modified a-line dresses and there were some that were truly beautiful, a couple too that made my friends go Wow. But for me, I thought they might be the one but I didn’t feel the connection too.

It wasn’t until I tried out something that I didn’t really expect when I finally got some emotional response. Whereever I went I said, no frilly, ruffles, no pouf, just close to the body lace. I was going for the classic look. I ended up getting a modern/trendy no-lace blinged out textured full A-line/princess dress. I didn’t cry but wearing it left me speechless. I didn’t buy it right away too since it was totally unexpected but I had nightmares about not getting so I ended up getting it in the end. After that, I still had dress regret because it’s so different but in the end, I guess it was meant to be.

I hope this helps reassure. 🙂 Bottomline, don’t be afraid to try on different things. Even if you think you won’t love it, you never know. Also, have fun with dress shopping. Once it’s done, you’ll miss it 😉

Post # 5
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

HAHHAHHA!  I had the same experience as you did!  I thought i’d waltz in there wanting a mermaid gown and walked out disappointed that I wasn’t crying in delirious joy that I had found my dress.  I felt like an alien cause isn’t everyone supposed to have their “I’M SAYING YES TO THE DRESS!!!” moment?  By the end of the appointment, I had tried on what seemed to be half the store, I was drowing in a sea of white dresses that were looking identical and i felt so depressed and unhappy. 

My advice?  Give yourself some time and don’t freak out.  It was only your first dress fitting!  By the time dress fitting number two came along for me, I literally latched onto the dress I chose and would not let it go. Note:  it was nothing like what i came in looking for, so be open minded about trying on EVERYTHING.  

How did i know it was the one?  I had this inner “THAT’S IT!!!!” dialogue in my heart.  I just knew that I could walk down the aisle in that dress with confidence and joy.   

In short?  Relax. You’ll find something that works with who you are/your own personal style.  Just give it time!  *hugs* 

Post # 6
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I tried on a ton of dresses and never really had that feeling of this is the one. So I looked back at pictures I had taken and picked the one I thought looked best and had someone make that for me. Fortunately, that experience went poorly and forced me to go out looking again. When I put on THE dress, I knew. I didn’t cry or make a fuss. I just stood there and looked and at myself in the mirror and felt the most beautiful I’ve ever felt. Now, whenever I’ve put the dress on for fittings or just to look at it, I love it more and more. It’s not like what I imagined but now that I have it, I couldn’t imagine anything else.

By trying on a bunch of dresses I was able to narrow down  and figure out the best parts of the dresses and find the one. You’ll find it, it may just take some time.

Post # 7
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think you have to have a typical bridal crying OMG moment to find your dress. The dress I am planning on going with doesn’t bring me to tears. It’s very plain and very “me”. When I was shopping, other, super frilly dresses were giving me more of an endorphin rush (cheast and face turning bright red, nervous giggling, etc.). After trying on a dress that elicited more of that type of reaction, my consultant said, “Well, I guess there is no point of putting that other one back on!” I told her I still wanted to because I kept picturing myself in it on my wedding day. I put it back on and didn’t have the endorphin-rush reaction. I said to her, “Now I just feel very much like myself, just as a bride.” That’s kind of how I knew. I don’t want to feel overwhelmed and nervous during my wedding ceremony; I just want to feel like me, but me as a bride.

Everyone is different. You make your decision however best works for you! 😀 

Post # 8
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Keep trying.

My first appt. I wound up buying a dress and I didn’t get the feeling, but I did like the dress so I was satisfied with my decision.

Then came the regret. 

Months later I went again with jut the MOH and when I put on THE dress, I knew.  It was different and I’ve had zero regret since then. 

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