Not sure of the right etiquette here, help me out please

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
  • poll: Do I need to order her a corsage?
    Get FSIL a corsage : (17 votes)
    11 %
    Don't get FSIL a corsage : (62 votes)
    41 %
    Get FBIL a bout : (10 votes)
    7 %
    Don't get FBIL a bout : (61 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If they are not in the wedding party already, then yes. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1951 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Eckle:  If they arent in the wedding, then no. Wedding party, Mothers, Father, Grandparents, attendants, flower girls and ring bearers, and any readers get flowers. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    No I don’t think so unless she has a part in the wedding.

    Post # 6
    Member
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think you should since they aren’t in the wedding party.  FSIL and FBIL are not in our bridal party, FI sister hasn’t said two words about our engagement, no congratulations, no how’s the wedding planning going but since they are immediate family members I did order ones for them.

    Post # 8
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Eckle:  Ha, sweet.

    We did bouts only for DH and the groomsmen. No one else got a bout or corsage.

    Post # 9
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    1259 posts
    Bumble bee

    I thought bouts and corsages were for mothers, fathers, and grandparents only? Well and bouts for the groomsmen. 

    I wouldn’t bother with getting one for FSIL. FOr the reason above ^ but also because she’s not nice clearly, haha. 

    Post # 10
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Eckle:  I don’t even understand WHY you think you need to get her flowers. In every wedding I’ve been to the only women with corsages were the moms & grandmas. You are absolutely NOT obligated to get FSIL or her husband anything. ESPECIALLY since they screwed you guys over at their wedding and isn’t supportive of your marriage. 

    Post # 12
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Eckle:  Sorry, I probably sounded harsher than I meant to. I was annoyed with the way she treated you, according to your follow up posts, I that may have been reflected in my answer! Good for you for wanting to do the right thing regardless of the wretched beast that she is!

    Post # 13
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    2243 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Only people in the wedding party & parents get flowers made for them. We also made boutonnierres for DH’s grandparents cause it just seemed right… but unless siblings are in the wedding party (all of ours were) -NOPE!

    Post # 14
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m a fan of being the bigger person. It’s a nice gesture, and it may soften her heart towards you that you thought to include her. If it’s not a financial hardship, why not extend the olive branch?

    I plan on getting my FSIL one.

    Post # 16
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    1503 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I voted no for both. She sounds awful, though 🙁 Sorry you’ll have her as a SIL.

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