(Closed) not sure what to do…

posted 5 years ago in Pets
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?
    Get the puppy : (71 votes)
    90 %
    Go along with boyfriends wishes and wait. : (7 votes)
    9 %
    Other, explain below : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    598 posts
    Busy bee

    Just get the dog…. it will be “both of yours” once you get married! You are not married to him yet nor are you even near to getting engaged according to what you said: therefore you are free to do whatever you want. Get the pup!

    Post # 4
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I kind of understand where he’s coming from, but at the same time it’s a ridiculous request. It’s not as if the two of you can’t get another puppy together in the future. Go ahead and adopt your furbaby, with whom you’ve obviously bonded, and remind your SO that there will be more puppies.

    Post # 5
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

     You shouldn’t put your life on hold waiting for something that may not ever even happen. I would get the dog. I might have involved him in picking out the dog as a gesture, because if you are together long term he would be spending a lot of time with the dog, but that ship has sailed.

    Post # 6
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Get the puppy. If your in a relationship you can still share it and she will be both of yours. if hes involved with picking her up maybe and then the training, he might feel she belongs to both of you

    Post # 7
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I got a dog when I was living seperate from my boyfriend (now fiance). I think if it’s what you want to do you should go for it. We ended up getting a second dog about 6 months after we moved in together. The funny thing is the dog I got while seperate from him absolutely adores him . 

    Post # 8
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Get the puppy.  I adopted a cat while living with Fiance (then BF) and he is my cat.  I pay for all his food and vet care.  We are LDR this year, and I adopted another cat.  When I adopted the second cat his response was “so this means I get to pick out our dogs when we have a house right?”

    Post # 9
    9618 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    You already organized to get the dog, so don’t back out now just because your boyfriend got upset, she will be both of yours once you live together!

    Post # 10
    1612 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Get the dog.  Its what you want.

    Post # 11
    3689 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Get the puppy.  DH and I each came into our relationship with two dogs.  Even though I only raised two of them from puppies myself, I love all four equally, as well as the cat we raised together from a kitten.

    Post # 12
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    we are not anywhere near to being engaged”

    How would you feel if you were say, 5 years away from being married? That’s 5 years you could have spent with an adorable dog huh?

    Get the puppy. It’s his problem for not wanting to move in with you (which, by the way, I disagree with but that’s another story).


    Post # 13
    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Get the puppy. If you’re not even near being engaged what is to say you will ever get engaged to this guy? You could break up in a year and regret not having gotten her. He’ll deal with it.

    Post # 14
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    As everyone has said, get the puppy.  Once you live together is will belong to both of you.  I had a dog before I met my SO.  Despite years of her being only my dog, she is totally his dog too now that we live together.  We also got a second dog shortly after we moved in together, but that one is in no way more his than the other.

    Post # 15
    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m sorry I don’t see an ounce of logic in your Boyfriend or Best Friend thinking.

    Post # 16
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Get the puppy…. I had 2 cats on my own and FH made it quite clear they would always be MY cats. Well now 4 months after the kitties and I moved into his house, he feeds them, plays with them, cleans after them and spends an awful lot of time cuddled up with them. The puppy will belong to both of you eventually regardless of what he says now.

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