Post # 1
My bridesmaids are driving me insane. I told them just pick out a formal looking LBD. Figured it would be pretty easy. I also told them to please have the dress by April 17th (4 months before the wedding) and only 2 out of the 5 have dresses. (well 3 if you count my little sister having a dress there is no way her boobs will ever fit in but she is at least looking)
One of my bridesmaids has the worst taste in clothes EVER, and has been complaining and trying to get me to change things from day 1. (She is trying to plan the wedding she never had through me)
and the other one that is driving me insane wont even call or text me back at all… She has been on facebook, Imessage tells me she saw the texts I sent and I have left voicemails. I dont even know what to do…
How do I deal with the bridesmaid who is way too involved and the one who wont even return a phone call?
Post # 3
@MsPanda: Honestly, this is why I think it can be a horrible idea to let people pick out their own dresses. For some people it works well, but for my maids, it would be the week before the wedding before they got anything. As of now, my mom hasn’t started to look for her dress– it is so stressful!
For the super involved bridesmaid, can you have her help with chores? Stuff like stuffing envelopes, assembing favors, making a card box, and the like?
For the non-invovled, wait until May 1 and try to have lunch. Leaving your wedding out of the discussion until the end. Then ask about the dress. Offer to help her shop or offer to send ideas.
Post # 4
if they can’t handle the duties then you might have to ask them to step down as BMs.
i would schedule and meeting ASAP and have a frank talk with all of them.
Post # 5
Why are you expecting them to have dresses 4 months in advance if they’re just long black dresses?
Your bad-taste-in-clothes bridesmaid has always been like this. Please don’t expect her to suddenly become a fashionista and find a great gown. Your decision to “make it easy”, for better or worse, helped to create the situation you are in with her.
I agree with Pollywog to set a date with the non-responding bridesmaid (hopefully right before programs are printed) to see if she’s actually going to be involved or not.
Post # 6
This is why you should narrow down options… here is the color/length I like.. and here are the five dresses you can pick from.
Seriously they are being ridiculous. I’d call them both, and tell them they have 24 hours to put up, order the dress, or shut up(drop them from the wedding or pick the dress they have to have)
I was glad to let my girls go wild, gave them color/length and be done with it. They are mature enough to know they wanted dresses they could wear again but the day wasn’t a bout them. including my 16 year old niece.