(Closed) Not sure what to do…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MsPanda:  Honestly, this is why I think it can be a horrible idea to let people pick out their own dresses. For some people it works well, but for my maids, it would be the week before the wedding before they got anything. As of now, my mom hasn’t started to look for her dress– it is so stressful!

For the super involved bridesmaid, can you have her help with chores? Stuff like stuffing envelopes, assembing favors, making a card box, and the like?

For the non-invovled, wait until May 1 and try to have lunch. Leaving your wedding out of the discussion until the end. Then ask about the dress. Offer to help her shop or offer to send ideas.

Post # 4
8533 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if they can’t handle the duties then you might have to ask them to step down as BMs.

i would schedule and meeting ASAP and have a frank talk with all of them.

Post # 5
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why are you expecting them to have dresses 4 months in advance if they’re just long black dresses?

Your bad-taste-in-clothes bridesmaid has always been like this.  Please don’t expect her to suddenly become a fashionista and find a great gown.  Your decision to “make it easy”, for better or worse, helped to create the situation you are in with her.

I agree with Pollywog to set a date with the non-responding bridesmaid (hopefully right before programs are printed) to see if she’s actually going to be involved or not.

Post # 6
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

This is why you should narrow down options… here is the color/length I like.. and here are the five dresses you can pick from. 


Seriously they are being ridiculous.  I’d call them both, and tell them they have 24 hours to put up, order the dress, or shut up(drop them from the wedding or pick the dress they have to have) 


I was glad to let my girls go wild, gave them color/length and be done with it.  They are mature enough to know they wanted dresses they could wear again but the day wasn’t a bout them. including my 16 year old niece.

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