Post # 1
I did not receive a save the date to a (I thought) good friend’s daughter’s wedding but did receive an invitation 1 month prior to wedding date. My daughter believes I was a part “of the seond string” and it is an insult to me to attend. Opinions?
Post # 3
Even though it is your good friend, it’s not your friends wedding, it’s her daughters wedding. So many things come into consideration as to who is to be invited. If you didn’t recieve a save the date, it could be because the couple never sent any. Many couples opt not to send save the dates at all. You could have been added to the list later in planning, there is nothing wrong with this. The day is about the couple. Either accept or decline, it’s entirely up to you.
Post # 4
Do you know the daughter well also? If not, then I think it is quite nice of them to invite you whether it was second string or not.
Anyway, you don’t know for sure that you were in the second run of invitations. Maybe they didn’t send out save the dates, or maybe yours got lost in the mail, or maybe it was in an e-mail that got sent to the wrong address. There are lots of possibilities.
You should attend (if you would have wanted to normally) and be happy for your friend and the couple.
Post # 5
I agree with @bostonceltics
Post # 6
Its not an insult at all. To give you an example of why there may be a “second string” – my Fiance has a HUGE family who are all over the midwest. Like a dozen aunts, uncles, and first cousins – most of whom have spouses and kids. We couldn’t just invite some of them – so they will ALL be getting invitations. We already know not all of them are going to make it. We are limited by our venue’s capacity – so – when some of his relatives let us know officially that they can’t make it, we’ll be able to invite other friends (including some of my parents friends). Its not an insult to them at all – its the fact that family comes first, budgets are real, and venues have capacities.
Post # 7
I’m going to also agree with Future_Ms.Bostonceltics . What if they were just too busy and ended up forgetting some people’s STDs? Plus, I’ve been to a few weddings where they opt out of sending Save-The-Date Cards. It’s entirely up to you if you want to attend.
Post # 8
Agreed with this. Shouldn’t be insulted. At least you were on some sort of list!