Post # 1
One of my BMs and I lost touch. One of the reasons is that she is so hard to get a hold of. I have to email,text, or call her twice to get a response. I had asked her to be a BM 3 years ago (we’ve had a long engagement) and I haven’t hung our with her once since then. I asked her if she still wants to be a BM and she said yes. I texted her the other day to try to get together with her, but same thing, no response. She is a really nice person and she has depression. Maybe her depression is getting in the way of her contacting me, I don’t know. Part of me really wants her to still stand up in my wedding, but then part of me is sick of having to email,text her twice in order to get a response. I am also questioning how realiable she will be. I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
Seriously 3 years without seeing her both your lives would have moved on and you both may not be the same people, I believe, even if not face to face, regular contact needs to be maintained to stay “friends” … I don’t know if I could deal with such an unreliable friend as BM either, I don’t expect anything from my BMs except for them to turn up in a dress and to reply to my occasional update emails (about hair etc) which they do within a week usually. It is not selfish for you to expect responses from a friend without having to chase them all the time, it takes 2 to maintain a relationship.
Post # 4
Maybe ask her to do a reading or something instead if you decide not to keep her in the BM role because if she DOESN’T turn up at least that role can be replaced last minute by a helpful guest… Just an idea…
Could you have a family only bridal party so she wouldn’t be offended?