Not sure what to do anymore…. Issues with ceremony/reception

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Bummping. Id elope to the tampa church lol but seriously keep looking at venues or wait till august??

Post # 4
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I focused on the fact that you want a church wedding.  If that’s still what you want, I would go Lutheran.  Otherwise, I think you’re fine waiting until August to find out what’s going on and then deciding.  In the meantime, keep looking! 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Could you get married at the Lutheran Church and reception at the Yacht club?  If you don’t like what the yacht club finally offers you could fall back on the hall at the church.  

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ARe you Catholic now? Do you care about having a sacramental marriage in the Catholic Church? I don’t understand getting married in a Lutheran church if that is a priority for you.

Post # 8
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You don’t have to have a 100 person guest list to have your father walk you down the isle and have a father daughter dance. You could only invite his parents/your parents and call it a day. Reserve a private room at your favorite place to eat and hook up your ipod. You can have all the elements you want without all the people. You just have to step outside the box. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kittywolf13:  So are you Catholic or Lutheran?  From what I know of Catholicism, marriage is one of the holy sacraments.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sacraments_of_the_Catholic_Church

I would wait till August.  I know it’s going to drive you nuts to wait that long, but it will be better in the end because you’ll have all the information you need to make a decision.  In the mean time, I would try to cut your guest list.  Did you invite all your cousins?  Is there anyone invited who you haven’t seen in years?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@kittywolf13:  I’m confused. Are you concerned about getting married in a pretty building or getting married in church because like one of the other PP’s why having a wedding in the Lutheran Church when you’re Catholic is perplexing to me. You seem to be religion hopping based on what’s going on at the moment and what’s comfortable. Maybe looking at it that way, it doesn’t matter WHERE you’re married.

 

The next thing I’d advise you to do is to concentrate on the UNION, not the party. Ultimately, the important part is that you get to marry the man you love. You’re also going to probably want to factor in the cost of photography which besides food is going to be one of your biggest expenses, then you’ll need flowers, all that stuff that you probably didn’t even think of like a petticoat for your dress, bra, hair, makeup, jewelry, invites, POSTAGE…

 

Your parents have some medical issues and that’s going to cost money. Not trying to be negative, but ANYTHING can happen after a medical procedure and God forbid there are complications, that will probably cost additional money. I say that to say… let them concentrate all their money to solving their medical issues and not have to worry about how they’re gonna pay for this if money has to go elsewhere. 

 

Have whatever wedding your money (and your FI’s money) can buy. If that’s going to the courthouse, then do that. If it’s a small ceremony in your Priest’s office, then do that. Do like a PP suggested and have a small family dinner and then plan a honeymoon with the several thousand dollars you would have saved or use THAT money on your future house.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@kittywolf13:  If you’re concentrating on a party, then yeah, I guess you could say that money on a dress is wasted, but my SIL was married in a courthouse and they’ve been married 25 years. Never even (I found out yesterday) have taken a honeymoon, but you couldn’t PAY her to do that day any differently. She was 18.

And I wouldn’t dare compare your parents to your FFIL. (1) Traditionally, the bride’s parents absorb just about ALL the costs of the wedding and (2) if you two are old enough to get married, pay for it. They shouldn’t be expected to open their wallets and IMO, nor should they unless they WANT to. They don’t want to and they shouldn’t be looked at less than because of it. 

Maybe they have some issues with the marriage itself. Who knows?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

If your budget is really 3000, and from that you need to rent a venue, pay a photographer, have a reception for 100, add to that decorate/flowers I think something is going to have to give. 

I don’t know how the Yacht club’s rates will work as you’re already at 550 + 2300.  Maybe you won’t need much decor or flowers there, but you’ll still have the photographer’s fee and tips.   I don’t know anywhere that fees are decreasing so when they get back to you I’d guess that those numbers may increase.   

Maybe you could do an earlier in the day ceremony with a  cake/punch /champagne reception with IPOD?

Maybe a Lutheran church reception hall with cake/punch/IPOD and a little bit more of a budget for decoration and/or light apps (maybe the church circle ladies would cater them?)

A park/backyard BBQ should be doable. 

If there is a pretty public place maybe you can do photos there and have the reception/ceremony elsewhere if it’s less expensive?

Hopefully you’ll find a venue where you cab have everything you want on your budget. 

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that maybe the budget might have to be raised maybe, but she should definetly have a wedding if that is what she wishes! I mean theres nothing wrong with a court house wedding but OP came here to vent and not be judged by her decisions to want a traditional wedding. It might be hard for her, but not impossible. and why are people on the wedding bee if they are trying to convince other people not to have a wedding? (traditional) I think someone forgot their happy pills (Prozac) today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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