Post # 1
My husband and I have been thinking about having another child but I’m not sure if I want another child. Lol. My daughter is 3 and she is a hand full! I go back and forth on this all the time! One day, I’ll say no way, I’m not ready for 2 kids! And then other days, I see a baby and just ooh and ahhh all day long and I go home to my husband and say we need to start TTC again. One factor we think about is that if we do decide to have another one, when? My daughter is already 3 so if we decided to have another one, I want them to be close in age. Have other bees experienced this? What did you end up doing? Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!
Post # 3
@mrs.folks: I have a 3.5 year old from a previous relationship and met DH when my son was a few months old. DS is a hand full he has ADHD and is one crazy little boy. We went back and forth on when to start TTC after getting married. We decided to just go for it because when LO is born DS will be almost 4 (I’m due in Oct and DS’s bday is in Nov) so hopefully he is a little more “mature” by then. If not oh well we can handle it DS LOVES babies (I do daycare so he is used to sharing me with other kids) and is very excited about his new little brother or sister (we are team green). Also a huge factor in our decision is DH’s age he is 39. I do not regret the decision to TTC at all and I think 4 years will be a perfect gap for DS and our new LO.
Post # 4
My mom has a great opinion on this….either have them close together (2 years) or far enough apart (4+ years.) She said the later option is so that you don’t remember how rough 2-4 yo’s can be. My sister and I are 7 years apart….it also helps when you can have the first born help out.
Since I’m still TTC #1 and I’m 36, I DO NOT plan on waiting a certain number of months or years for #2 but that’s just me.
Post # 5
I really wonder if I’m going to feel this way 🙂 DH and I have our first due in a few weeks, and we had planned on TTCing again when our baby is 9 months-1 year. I think we might be surprised at the amount of energy one takes up though and that 1 year may turn into several! 🙂 Interested to see what other moms have to say!
Post # 6
@MarryMeTiffany: Well I need to start working on it then!! Lol. She will be 4 in march.
@texasbee: I think we will have them far apart. Maybe when she’s 4 or 5? Lol
@CEtoSAHM: believe it or not, that’s what we thought too but even after 3 years, we don’t know! Lol
Post # 7
@mrs.folks: I am in the same boat sort of. I have two daughters, 18 and 11 from my previous marraige. He has no children and wants one. I am scared to death to start over and feel old. lol I am 35 so the clock is ticking.
I am going to take the plunge because I adore my husband and I know that once I ma prego I will be in love with the new life inside me. I forget that I will be doing this with a real responsbile man this time. That eases my mind a bit.
Post # 8
MY babys almost 1 and we plan to have another one when shes 3, i think the closer in age the better BUT they are a hassle lol. I tell FI once i hit 25 no more kids.