- 5 years ago
So my FI’s older brother is engaged. He’s been engaged to his fiancee for about 5 months now. FI told me that his family and his brother’s fiancee’s family are going to meet for the first time, well more of his parents and the girl’s parents. This is supposed to happen Christmas. I think it’s kind of weird that they are meeting now, but who am I to say.
FI’s parents got into a little argument and now his mom is in a bad mood. She blew up on his dad and ALSO FI’s older brother, because FI’s brother asked (while she was pissed off during the week) to make sure if she is coming on Christmas to meet his fiancee’s family. She flat out screamed NO. Reason being because she tends to hold her anger inside that’s been bottled up for years. FI’s mother’s cousin’s daughter (sheesh that is confusing ha) lives a few hours away from FI’s family. She visited a few years back and FI’s mother went to visit her. She asked FI and FI’s brother to come with her at that time. Of course, my FI being a sweetheart went with her. FI’s brother did not and didn’t want to. That shows disrespect and lack of being polite to their mother and to the family member (daughter).
So, that is why FI’s mother is not going to join their Christmas dinner. FI’s brother is extremely hurt, worried, and angered. I am sure she will not change her mind because that is how she is and I know how she is. I am though kind of on FI’s mother’s side because I understand her and she was hurt when FI’s brother didn’t give two shits at the time of visiting family. On the other hand, FI’s dad and mom have family issues. When they first became married, FI’s dad didn’t like to have mom’s family over their home and vice versa. Ehh, long story. Also, FI and FI’s brother’s family are all Asian. Sooo, very traditional, very strict family culture etc. FI’s mother stated that she doesn’t want to meet FI’s brother’s fiancee’s family. Something along the lines of: why should I support you and visit your new family, if you never want to support me when I went to visit my niece(kind of)?
I feel bad for FI’s bro though. I don’t even know if FI will be going to their dinner, or their dad for that matter, because it would be extremely awkward being there and their mother not there. Don’t know what to say, do, or think. Don’t know how to comfort FI. : ps: I don’t think FI’s mother likes the fiancee and likes me better 😛 I do know that I would like to give FI’s mom a bouquet of flowers to just lift her spirits, I know she would like that. But on a random day, because I don’t want her knowing that I know of their situation/drama. But I feel that it might make maters worse and FI’s brother and fiancee might get pissed off or something at me??!?! Ah I dunno.