(Closed) Not sure what to think… (a little long, sorry)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think a lot of us have been there. It’s hard knowing it’s sooo close. You think “WOW this would be a great opportunity to ask!” and he doesn’t. Then the disappointment comes. Just remember: it WILL happen. And it will happen exactly how it is supposed to. Unfortunately, days DRAG by- but months from now you’ll have been engaged for a while and wonder why you stressed so much about something out of your hands. I hope you enjoy the trip, can’t blame you if you get anxious! Good luck!

Post # 5
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Paint your nails & relax.

Fi had my ring for 2 months before he proposed.  We went to Dc for a weekend before Easter and I swore it would happen then with the pretty cherry blossoms etc.  It didn’t.  I whined the whole way home about how tired I was of waiting.  He told me to be patient and let him do it his way, but to keep my nails painted (I hate surprises and didn’t want chipped nails while everyone ooed over my bling).  I’m against holiday proposals and may have threatened that if he did it on my birthday (end of April) that I’d say no lol.  We came back from DC on Monday.  Saturday I got a mani with a friend.  I felt it was coming.  Sunday he gave me my easter basket (pretty empty, he even put a half gone bag of jelly beans in it!) and I was crushed that it wasn’t in there.  He definitely saw my disappointment, but had to go “turn off the basement light”.  He came back with a second cupcake that had my ring on top.  Pjs, holiday, and messy hair (but nice nails), but of course I said yes.


It will happen.  Don’t fret if it’s not the day you exoect.

Post # 7
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Are you me? This is pretty much my situation to a tee… I really don’t want to be thinking about it the whole trip, I just want to enjoy it, even if it would be SO perfect.

Post # 8
3 posts

That’s really hard! I do understand your feelings. But your  BF wants you here around him completely, not a fake smile, while in your thoughts you are far away, walking ta altar… Just be with him! It’s important for him to see, you need HIM and you love him and you are obsessed with him, but not with the idea to get married and finally change your marital status and be Mrs. Whoever)) 

Plus it’s a great way to enjoy your last nice moments togeher as a Boyfriend or Best Friend and GF))) Feel how special this moment it is)))) 

Post # 9
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I may be wrong but I think him asking about the solitaire means he has bought the three stone and just wants to make sure that it’s the one you want πŸ™‚ good luck!

Post # 10
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Try to think of it as one of the last trips you’ll take as boyfriend/girlfriend and cherish that time together.  Our Memorial Day trip up north would have been awesome if he had proposed, but looking back, I’m kind of happy he waited.  Now that trip, which was perfect and ridiculously romantic, will serve as a little time capsule memory of our last days of courtship.  Enjoy your time together there, and think about how few trips you have left with your “boyfriend”.  Who knows–maybe this will be the last trip you take as a “girlfriend”??!  πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
699 posts
Busy bee

@lbear:  Enjoy the here and now, do things for you, go shopping, get a mani/pedi, it relaxes you, even a nice massage is nice. go fro long walks. it helps distract you. I’ve kinda given up on this year, we have to get a new car and go to hawaii so most of our funds are going there & i can’t see him saving for all that and a ring lol, but who knows

Post # 12
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband did the “are you sure?!” for weeks.  “YES I’M DAMN SURE BUY THE DAMN RING!”  Those were the days.  πŸ™‚

But really – if he’s that into it, he’s serious.  Try to convince yourself that he has it planned for two weeks from now, and you’d hate it if he did it on vacation because that’d be so unlike him.  Or something – even if it’d be perfect.  So if it doesn’t happen, you’ll still have a good time, and if he wants to – let him surprise you!  How many more chances will he get?! 

Post # 13
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Aw waiting sucks lol. simple as that! It sounds to me like he has the 3 stone ring already and is just making sure you really love it.

  I would just enjoy this vacation..and like PP said it could be your last Boyfriend or Best Friend and Girlfriend vacation so think of it that way. ( that’s exciting haha)

Post # 15
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@lbear:  I’m glad you have a very good head on your shoulders and while yes, you had a break down, we all do. My advice is be happy knowing that you’re loved, and he planned this trip, grew out his beard and is annoying the crap out of you about the ring because he loves you! πŸ˜€ 

p.s. I like beards too, I don’t know why. 

Best of luck! 

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