Not sure what to think about what my friend wants to wear to the wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Let her wear it and stay silent on the matter : (100 votes)
    24 %
    Be honest and tell her its too ridiculous : (310 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    While I love Doctor Who, I wouldn’t wear that to a wedding unless one of my geeker friends asked me too and I was their bridesmaid.

    As is, you can’t dictate what everyone wears to your wedding.  I would tell her that it is out of place, and maybe show her your bridesmaid dresses to give her an idea of how out of place it is.  But if she wares it, it is on her, not you.  Any attention she gest form your guests will reflect on how she dressed herself. 

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  The nerd in me just had a nergasm because that is fabulous.

    However, yeah, most people are not going to understand or they will look at her like she is out of her mind, but what can you do? Uninvite her I suppose, but you certainly can’t tell her what to wear although this is pretty weird to wear.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  I don’t know I guess I understand where you’re coming from, but…if she’s so excited about it (and doesn’t have any malicious intent behind this move)..then why not let her do it? 

    Are you just worried that all eyes will be on her? 

    Post # 7
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    1025 posts
    Bumble bee

    What? Wow. I was really hoping this was a bad joke.

    I guess the only real answer is that she is an adult and she can wear what she wants. Yes people will be looking at her, and not in a good way. After they are done laughing the attention will turn back to the wedding.

    I feel bad for people when they are dressed highly inappropriatly at social functions.

    All you can do is keep telling her that you really think it’s inappropriate.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As much as I hate that dress, I would just let it go. She is the one who will look ridiculous. After the inital shock when your other guests gasp at her apalling choice, they will soon ignore her and focus on the wedding.

    Post # 10
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am British and can tell you that absolutely nobody in Britain would wear that to a wedding!! (unless it was fancy dress?!)

    While you can’t prevent her from wearing it, you could perhaps show her some other dresses you like and suggest they might be more appropriate.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    um What?!?!  I have no words.

     

    Post # 13
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    Hmmm, that’s a cool dress, but I wouldn’t want her wearing it to the wedding. 

    What an odd thing to wear as a guest… I don’t understand what she’s thinking. 

    Post # 15
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    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    …So she’s coming to your wedding as the tardis? Umm ok, for a not-theme wedding that is pretty weird. Is your wedding at least formal so a floor length gown won’t look out of place? I guess if she really wants to do it you can’t stop her. At least your wedding will be memorable for your guests in more way than one?

    Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Wel that certainly is unique. I am of the no harm, no foul mindset. As long as the worst outcome of a guests’s attire is a raised eyebrow, it’s probably best to not make a big deal of it.

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