- 7 years ago
It is becoming quite apparent that Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want future nephew (C) to go home. Normally, I wouldn’t give two craps, but the problem is that I am responsible for him during the day if she is working. Saturday C was here all day for a party. Future Sister-In-Law picked him up and took him home late that night. Sunday morning, Future Mother-In-Law was all ready to go pick C up again! She asked me if I’d keep him Monday so he could spend the night Sunday night. I thought it highly weird that she was so insistant upon him spending the night here on a weekday, because he never does. I said yes, though, but that I couldn’t Tuesday because I’ve got to go somewhere. Well, it’s Tuesday and the kid is STILL here!
I spent all day yesterday chasing him around and dealing with general baby stuff (diapers, baths, meltdowns, naps, etc.) I want a damn break today! He is not my child. I don’t have a child and I don’t want a child. Period. So, Fiance stayed home from work today to help me with C. He got up early with him because Future Mother-In-Law insisted on waking the kid up at 6 AM! He does not function well when he gets woken up that early. Also, I’m leaving at about 12 to go to my step-cousin’s dress fitting (another story), and I can’t take C, so Fiance is going to watch him for me. Well, I should say, for Future Sister-In-Law, since she neglected to come get her son. Or, for Future Mother-In-Law, who insists this kid stay here. The situation is so weird because I said, “FSIL has to come get C by Tuesday afternoon.” and Future Mother-In-Law said, “Or she can just come sit with him until I get off of work, and then she can go home.” She has said that repeatedly. Then, she’s like, “But, she’ll have to come get him late Wednesday night because I’ve gotta go to grandma’s surgery Thursday. But, she can bring him back after I get home from the hospital.” I’m not registering why Future Sister-In-Law can’t just take her child home with her??
Future Mother-In-Law has never kept C this much. Honestly, I think it has something to do with her not trusting my aunt to take care of C, or that she thinks C is too good to be at my aunt’s house. FYI: My aunt is C’s other grandmother, Future Sister-In-Law has a child with my cousin. My aunt has been C’s exclusive caregiver for his whole life, because he and Future Sister-In-Law live at my aunt and uncle’s house, and have lived there since C was born. Last Friday, Future Mother-In-Law and I stopped by my aunt’s to visit everyone. My aunt’s other grandchild was also there, at the time. While we were all sitting outside, talking, the other grandchild did a front flip down the front steps. She didn’t sustain any injuries, but she could have, I guess. There aren’t that many steps, but they’re brick. I just think that ever since Future Mother-In-Law saw that, she is thinking that something like that will happen to her precious C.
My Future Mother-In-Law is a verrry paranoid person. Very over-protective. I know exactly how her mind works. Although she’s never said anything to me, she is probably in fear of sending C home because she thinks he is going to get hurt. Well, I’ve got news for her, kids get hurt! They live to get hurt! She had four kids, so I’m not sure why this is news to her. My Fiance has had so many injuries, I’m surprised he’s still “with us”.
When Future Sister-In-Law was planning to take C to the beach, Future Mother-In-Law nearly gave herself a heart attack. The first time, she ended up volunteering to take C for the weekend so that Future Sister-In-Law wouldn’t take him to the beach. From the time she found out about the trip, she wouldn’t shut up. “I hope she doesn’t speed down there, I know how she drives.” and, “I hope she remembers to give him sunscreen!” and, “Oh my God, if he gets away from her she’ll never find him!” I was just thinking, wtf? Future Sister-In-Law has never let anything happen to C before, he’s HER kid! The second time, Future Sister-In-Law didn’t even tell Future Mother-In-Law she was planning to take C to the beach. She just took him. When Future Mother-In-Law found out Future Sister-In-Law was at the beach with C, she called Future Sister-In-Law repeatedly, obsessively wanting to know where they were staying, if C had swim shoes, etc.
I’m no longer going to agree to keeping C on weekdays. I’m sorry, but I have a life and don’t feel like being taken advantage of. But, I’m just wondering what FMIL’s deal is. Why is she so afraid to send C home with his mother, her daughter?