Not sure where to go from here…..

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think the reason you arn’t getting any replies is that people are thinking the same thing we were on the first post. 

If you want marriage and he’s not willing… there’s really only one choice. 

But i’m also confused as to why he’s refusing. 3 kids and 9 years is commitment to me.  I’m a strong believer in actions over words.  So his actions are showing you he’s commited, but his words are not.  I think couples counselling may be needed to find out why he’s refusing. 

Saying all that….. the cheating of 2006 makes me nervous. How do you know he’s still not cheating and doesn’t want to make it legal so that when he gets caught it won’t be as messy? 

At the end of the day, only you know what you can live with. What’s right for you and your girls.

Post # 4
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@evergoingtobemrs:  Yeah I guess i need more of an understanding as to WHY exactly he is refusing. Does he some moral standing against marriage? Doesnt believe in the political aspect? got to be something.

If he has some sort of reasoning (even though it may not make sense to us) then I think you need to decide if you are truly happy with him and if you can sacrifice a wedding to be with the one you love. 9 years and a family does seem pretty committed to me.

Did he ever say this before? or you were always under the intention of getting married?

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