(Closed) Not sure where to start….

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ablondesdiylife:  You have valid reasons for not wanting him there. However you will come across many a Bee who will tell you that etiquette wise married couple’s can’t be separated during weddings.

If you don’t want him there, tell your mother so. Let her know she is welcomed to come on her own,  but be prepared for this to future destory your relationship with her. If she is that ultra-conservative, she will choose her husband over you.

 

Post # 4
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2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@LuvMySailor:  “If you don’t want him there, tell your mother so. Let her know she is welcomed to come on her own,  but be prepared for this to future destory your relationship with her. If she is that ultra-conservative, she will choose her husband over you.

+1.

I’m not sure why you would even want your mother there, she doesn’t sound supportive of you, or your relationship.

Post # 5
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2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

elope! dont tell them dont invite them

Post # 6
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@LuvMySailor:  I can’t believe a Bee would support etiquette of inviting married couples when one half of that couple was physically and emotionally abusive to the bride…

If you think you would like your mother there, tell her she is welcome to attend but her husband is not.  Let her know you understand she may choose not to attend without her husband, but that he is not welcome.

Post # 7
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@pixiecat:  Oh I know but I’ve seen it. You’ve got some etiquette police up here. I for one say tell the jerk to stay home. I would not want him there either.

Post # 10
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Ablondesdiylife:  I’m so sorry you had to go through all that as a youngster. 

Your mum does not deserve to see you wed. If she did not protect you and support you when you needed her the most, she and her douchey husband can stay home burying farts in the couch and miss out on the love. SCREW the etiquette police. 🙂

you sound as though you have achieved wonderful things despite them and their terrible parenting, good for you!! 

 

Post # 11
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What a distressing situation and upbringing. You can read/talk as much as you want about etiquette, however when it comes down to it, it is your wedding.  

Weddings are seen as new beginnings, a celebration of life and love and a fresh start for a new family. I would advise you to only have those at the wedding who you wish to bring forward in your new life together as a married couple.  

Perhaps having a very small, intimate ceremony with your closest loved ones, and then a bbq or something weeks later where you can invite everyone who wishes to congratulate you two.

Best of luck in working through this tough situation.

 

Post # 12
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Ablondesdiylife:  Tough situation.

I would just tell her the truth.  If she doesn’t like it, then well she can stay home too.

I personally would not want that man at my wedding either.  What a jerk!!  And your mother doesn’t sound like she is very supportive of you either.

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