Post # 1
My guy has told me he legitimately does not care what I look like, so long as I’m OK with my appearance. As in he’s just as happy when I’m in sweats and haven’t washed or brushed my hair as he is when I’ve made an effort to look like a civilized adult. He’s never complimented my appearance. I just want to know he finds me attractive.
Post # 3
you should talk to your FI and tell him how you feel. He probably really doesn’t care how you look cuz he loves you but if you need to hear it, let him know.
Post # 4
Girl, you must be attactive as h*ll if your man can stand you in sweats in public! 🙂
But seriously, guys can be weird for this stuff, he probably meant to tell you that you’re always attractive, no matter what you wear – he needs to work on the wording! I agree you let him know you need to hear it from time to time!
Post # 5
My FH does compliment me, but sometimes, if I spent extra time getting ready or whatever, I fish for compliments, in a silly way. I say something like “So…” and strike a cute pose or something. He gets my very obvious hint and says, “You look nice today, babe.”
So maybe you could talk to him about why its important and how you feel, and then if you feel like he isn’t doing it enough or starts to forget, start fishing! 🙂
Post # 6
Honey – he definitely finds you attractive, or he wouldn’t be with you. It sounds like you would like some reassurance from him (who doesn’t want their SO to tell them they are hot) so I think you should express that as a need to him. Tell him that it’s important for you to hear that he thinks you are beautiful from time to time and then drop it (meaning, don’t keep bringing it up).
Post # 7
@Oracle: “then drop it” hahaha she’ll get great compliments if she does, lol !!
Ha, only messin. Yeah, def tell him it matters to you – maybe lead by example? Like, when he’s fresh washed and shaved, make a bit of a fuss, tell him he looks/smells nice? Might be worth a go!
Post # 8
yep, that’s the kind of man you want!!! after all, he’s gonna be seeing you sans makeup more often than not 😉 and when you aren’t looking or feeling the best!!!
I agree to let him know it’s important to hear the compliments every once in a while then drop the subject.
My FI is like that (Except he’s always complimenting me! lol. and I still blush frequently even after 8 years together!!!), so be happy that you don’t have to dress to the 9’s to make him happy 😉
to me, that says he’s someone who will grow old beside you and will love you no matter what and not one of those guys who’ll drop you for someone “younger and prettier”. (unfortunately, men DO do this…)
Post # 9
Guys don’t always say things in the most articulate ways, but he’s trying to pay you a compliment. I don’t think it seems like he doesn’t care at all; I think he’s trying to say you look amazing no matter what so it doesn’t matter to him what you do! 🙂