Not sure whether to call this a good or a bad Waiting day…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Ugh I have definitely had those kinds of days. Luckily, like you, my SO is happy to talk it out and would rather have it all out in the open than have me bottle it up. Now that we’ve been together for six years it’s not such a big deal anymore – it’ll happen when it happens – but around the three-four year mark it was really tough for a while for me, emotionally. I made him feel pressured sometimes and that wasn’t a great dynamic, but he always told me he would rather know what I was feeling than keep something from him. I think this kind of communication is always good.

And it sounds like you are in a good place emotionally for this trip, otherwise. (Nothing ruins a vacation like that sneaky little thought in the back of your mind that it miiiiiight be this one.) I’m ashamed to say it took me a while to shut that up and be able to fully commit to enjoying myself and my relationship, engagement timeline completely aside. I don’t really have any other input or advice, just know you’re not alone. It sounds like you are with somebody who cares about you and your feelings, which is nothing to sneeze at. Enjoy your vacation together! Smile

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Cinderella7:  So it seems we have a lot in common.  By your username I can tell, for one.  I consider my FI my Prince Charming, and PC finially propsed to me this April.  We too were going through what you’re going through, and just started getting into where all our friends were married off but we weren’t (and we’ve been together the longest).  We dated for 7 years until he finally proposed, haha, which sort of sucks because I’ve always wanted a long engagement and by common law we’re already married, but I had to stick it out.  I would cry a lot and think the most depressing thoughts, but my FI did the same thing your amazing BF did every time I had a melt down.  It’s tough, girl, trust me, I know first hand, but the reward is soooo great.  I cried and cried and cried when he finally proposed.  It did sort of get to a point, though, where people who knew us the longest weren’t that happy about it and I got a lot of “It’s about time”‘s  and that really sort of ruined the moment for me.  One suggestion, if you think anybody close to you is going to be like that, wait a couple days after you’re engaged to tell them so it doesn’t put a damper on your awesome engagement!  I bet he has something amazing planned for you and I hope you have better waiting days to come!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Cinderella7:  People always bug me about getting PREGNANT even though I’m not even engaged yet! That’s easy to brush off with “Are YOU going to pay for the WEDDING first?” . But I wonder why people don’t think about the fact that asking the woman when they are getting engaged isn’t helpful? I mean… if you’re going to pressure someone, shouldn’t it be the person who is WAY more likely to be the one to actually do the deed? It’s so rude. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You will get threw this!!:) Same thing happened to me. For like a year i felt like people we constently asking me that. I wasnt even that worried till people started being worried for me. They kept asking me if he doesnt propose in hawaii are you going to leave him?? im like what? that escalated quickly. Or “how long will you wait” im like well i guess hes not worth marrying if hes not worth waiting for right?Everything is going to be fine:) I have totally done that before..

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@souza_2005:  Oh I had people doing that to me, too!  Like “Gosh, you’re STILL not engaged? How long are you going to wait for him?”  and I’d have to remind them that I’m only 23 and he’s 21 (22 today) and we live with my mom.  I don’t really want to be married and living with my mom, thank you very much.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh. So sorry about how that party went! On the bright side, you were clear/open/honest with your BF, and it sounds like he heard you!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
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