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    leafgum    June 17, 2012   Visalia, CA

    Over the past few weeks I've noticed that pretty much the only thing my FI and I talk about is the wedding. (Granted, I am 99% of the time the one who brings it up.)

    Unfortunately, each talk ends in a disagreement and when we part I feel bad for the rest of the day. It makes everything even worse that we have a very LDR (he's in Austria, I'm in California) and so to have every conversation be about the wedding (and the disagreements come up so much more easily when we're over skype rather than face to face, for some reason), is just getting tiring.

    So last night I made a big decision (and he happily agreed to it, I might add) - we will only talk about the wedding on Sundays. The wedding is in June '12 so I'm sure in a few months once the planning really picks up, we'll talk about it more often (maybe add in wednesdays too ;) ) but for now I think it will be really helpful.

    BUT... I cannot tell a lie... I will still be spending most of my time on WeddingBee and other websites, stacking up ideas to talk about on Sunday :)

     

    Have any other bees done something like this? Did you find it helpful?

     
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    CrispyRN    May 26, 2012   San Francisco, CA

    talk wedding to us! we love it! :D 

     
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    leafgum    June 17, 2012   Visalia, CA

    @CrispyRN:

    Haha! oh, I WILL. You might be sick of it by the time my wedding comes around! :)

     
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    MrsProf    January 7, 2012   Georgia

    I think that's a god idea. haha My FI just commented last night how every convrsation and everything I've been doing lately is wedding stuff. But we're like 50 days out (minus the holidays and it's WAY less!). I hate that my world is like this now, but I'll be happy when it's done. I think it's good to find a balance.

     
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    couawilou    October 20, 2012   Toronto, Ontario

    @leafgum: I won't get sick at all. I come here to talk wedding cuz otherwise I drive FI crazy with all my ideas and talks. So whenever you need an ear, I'm here, hey see it even rhymes hahaha, I know I'm lame lol

     
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    Merelton    April 21, 2012   Chicago

    Hey Leafgum...I totally feel your pain.  My FI moved to northern Michigan several months ago for a job (right after our engagement) and I'm left here in Chicago to plan the wedding and collect as much money as I can from my job before I quit and move up there with him.  It's really difficult, and although it sounds funny, I'm glad to know it's not just me in this boat.  :)  My FI and I have had similar bickering regarding the wedding and I HATE to bring it up when we chat on the phone because I know it must suck to be bombarded with questions about flowers and paper samples he can't see.  But still...it feels equally crappy to be planning this wedding without him (OUR wedding...).  So we just try and maintain a good balance.  I try to only bring up what I absolutely have to. 

    I just keep reminding myself that I'll be up there soon (April 2012).  Hang in there!!

     

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