Not telling family over Christmas

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Congrats!!

That would be really, really tough!

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@PatientBee:  Congratulations! I won’t lie, DH and I are the WORST at keeping surprises a surprise. (He gave me my Christmas gift early last month lol.) I’ve always wanted to keep a BFP a secret until around 10 weeks as well, but I have no idea how I’ll be able to when the day actually comes. I can totally understand your dilemma! If you do tell them, let them know how early it is, I think that’s your best bet! Best of luck and Merry Christmas!  🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PatientBee:  EEEK I’d be going crazy!! I admire your determination. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Wow good luck! I admire your determination. We absolutely can NOT keep it a secret any longer. Its only been a week since I got my BFP but Im too excited not to tell the family. We are telling them tomorrow. We figured IF something does happen we want/need their support and comfort. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

@PatientBee:  you have some determination! I couldn’t handle not telling immediate family. but i totally get why you want to wait and i admire your selfless-ness about it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m in the process of having a miscarriage at 9 weeks. We were going to tell everyone tonight. After this I will be strictly waiting until the second trimester for next time. I only told my mom and a sibling and I’m so glad for that because telling them about the loss was one of the worst parts about this. I can’t imagine having to tell others. Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but I too was so tempted to spill the beans on numerous occasions (Thanksgiving) and it so would not have been worth it. I think it’s best to only share with those you could bear to tell if the worse were to happen.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PatientBee:  congrats! Keeping the secret is so tough! We didn’t tell our families until 11 weeks.  Valentines day isn’t too far off you could do a cute surprise announcement for them then! 🙂 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I actually loved keeping mine a secret until I was about 11 weeks in. It was like DH and I had our own little secret, we used to wink and smile at each other while amongst fam & friends or he’d discreetly rub my tummy.

Its funny because I’m really close to my family and my sister was also pregnant at the time and she told everyone before AF was even due as did my SIL when she got her BFP. I’m a very good secret keeper and known for it in my family so I wasnt even tempted.

Congrats and enjoy the ride, being pregnant can be so wonderful!

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PatientBee:  ack! She is setting you up perfectly!! I would totally cave. Lol good luck staying strong. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m also waiting to tell my family and it’s killing me too!  Not to mention all of the things I couldn’t indulge in last night during Christmas Eve dinner: soft cheeses, wine, beer, champagne, medium rare serloin!  I had to make up a million excuses because by the end of the night the family was getting suspicious! 

Like @GrannyPantiesRock I’m holding off on telling for a reason. I was pregnant this summer and miscarried at 11.5 weeks after seeing a heartbeat on an ultrasound at 8 weeks so we aboslutely must wait until 12 weeks this time. Sorry to be a Debbie downer too but I think it’s smart to wait before going completely public. Stay strong!!  And you’ll still get the amazing reactions when you do finally tell them no matter what time of tear it is! Merry Christmas!

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