(Closed) Not the Mother of the Groom, GF of the Groom’s Father

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would ask the bride’s monther what she is wearing.  That should give you a clue of what to wear.  As for the helping, I would ask if you can help and if they want help, then provide it.  If you two are planning to get married, I would call yourself the fiance of the groom’s dad.

Post # 5
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1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you are helping host the rehearsal dinner, I’d do a “Mr. First Last and Ms. You Yourlast invite you to attend blah blah blah.”  As far as dress, since there’s a language barrier, I’d press the bride and/or groom a little further to establish what the MOB is wearing to help you decide.  I’m sure everyone wants you to fit in, so just play dumb and ask for a lot of help.  It’ll be wonderful I’m sure.

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

If your future daughter in law doesn’t feel comfortable giving you ideas, you can always print off a few pictures and ask her which one she prefers? Honestly, though, you can’t go wrong with a classic black dress :).

Post # 9
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

These are both from the formal section of Nordstrom, I bet they would work? Black is completely acceptable for weddings, even those that start sort of mid-day :).

 

http://shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens-dresses/evening?origin=accordion#category=b8000017|f6000380&type=category&page=1&sort=featured&sortreverse=0&sizeFinderId=2&partial=0&pagesize=100.

 

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Post # 11
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@notthemother: No problem! I used to work at a clothing store and finding dresses was always my favorite part :o).

Post # 12
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@notthemother: Maybe it is just my personal opinion, but I would not do black as the fiance of the groom’s dad. I believe that guests can wear black and it is very acceptable, but I don’t feel the parent’s of either party should wear black to the wedding. Just my honest opinion. I DO however LOVE the second dress. 🙂 I would just go with a different color. I saw they had it in purple as well. 🙂 Again, just my opinion.

Post # 13
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Agreed! The purple is better! It may not be symbolic everywhere, but in this region (Northeast US) I’ve seen more than one friend get into a brawl with future MIL over wearing black– it’s like grieving the loss of the groom! (Not to throw another wrench into your already confused set of circumstances!) It’s a happy occassion, go for a happy color! (Gray, Champagne and metallic tones are always great on mothers of bride/groom for formal affairs). Go as formal as you can since they are “fancy” just be yourself or you won’t be comfortable!

Best of luck!

 

Post # 14
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If the bride’s side is any pompous as an Indian wedding, I would suggest that you take out ALL the stops when it comes to dressing. The more you have on, the more you will fit in. The less you have on, the more you will feel out of place. I know, I know, ‘simplicity is the perfect form of beauty’ and what not. But these types of weddings are FULL of bright hues and jewelry.

Ask to see photographs of any other weddings from the bride’s side. (hopefully from within the last 3 years. With 60 first cousins, this should not be a problem.)

Ask your DIL concrete questions like “I have NO idea so we need to start from scratch. Can we go shopping together? And i want you to pick out a dress that you feel will be a good fit overall for the occassion.” If it is TOO much for you, then of course you shouldn’t wear it but then you will atleast get the general idea. Try to steer clear of colours like Black, White, Grey, Ivory (or any neutral shade for that matter).

Post # 14
Member
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If the bride’s side is any pompous as an Indian wedding, I would suggest that you take out ALL the stops when it comes to dressing. The more you have on, the more you will fit in. The less you have on, the more you will feel out of place. I know, I know, ‘simplicity is the perfect form of beauty’ and what not. But these types of weddings are FULL of bright hues and jewelry.

Ask to see photographs of any other weddings from the bride’s side. (hopefully from within the last 3 years. With 60 first cousins, this should not be a problem.)

Ask your DIL concrete questions like “I have NO idea so we need to start from scratch. Can we go shopping together? And i want you to pick out a dress that you feel will be a good fit overall for the occassion.” If it is TOO much for you, then of course you shouldn’t wear it but then you will atleast get the general idea. Try to steer clear of colours like Black, White, Grey, Ivory (or any neutral shade for that matter).

Post # 14
Member
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If the bride’s side is any pompous as an Indian wedding, I would suggest that you take out ALL the stops when it comes to dressing. The more you have on, the more you will fit in. The less you have on, the more you will feel out of place. I know, I know, ‘simplicity is the perfect form of beauty’ and what not. But these types of weddings are FULL of bright hues and jewelry.

Ask to see photographs of any other weddings from the bride’s side. (hopefully from within the last 3 years. With 60 first cousins, this should not be a problem.)

Ask your DIL concrete questions like “I have NO idea so we need to start from scratch. Can we go shopping together? And i want you to pick out a dress that you feel will be a good fit overall for the occassion.” If it is TOO much for you, then of course you shouldn’t wear it but then you will atleast get the general idea. Try to steer clear of colours like Black, White, Grey, Ivory (or any neutral shade for that matter).

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