(Closed) Not the reaction I was going for

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I completely understand your disappointment. Is it possible that she just didn’t want you to see her be emotional? Maybe she was still bothered by your disagreement and was focused on that?

Post # 4
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry that she didn’t go completely crazy over it!  Maybe she couldn’t visualize the whole picture or something?  I’m sure you looked gorgeous in it though!

Post # 5
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2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Post your dress here so we can see it! Maybe your mom was just having an off day?

Post # 7
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You should get someone to take a picture of you and we will all ‘ohh and ahh’ and make you feel great about it!

Post # 8
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

Did she help you pick out the dress? My mom would have been really disappointed if the first time she saw my dress was after I had already bought it. I think most moms who want to be involved in the planning would feel this way.

Post # 10
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Sounds like something my mom would say! Why don’t you post a picture of you in your wedding dress – no face included – on here & let us all tell you how beautiful you look!!! 🙂

Post # 11
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

@Rosie Girl – oh, ok. So I guess it looks very different from how she pictured it. I’m sorry she wasn’t more excited! I think she’ll warm up to it though. My mom thought some of my favorite dresses weren’t great when I showed her pictures of myself in them, and said so – it really upset me. A few weeks later, though, she was saying they were beautiful, and she ended up really liking the dress I chose.

PS Looking forward to seeing you in the dress!

Post # 12
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think sometimes our moms try to contain themselves & make that extra effort; when in turn it sounds to us like they arn’t excited. I didn’t get the reaction of “ohs and ahs” from my mom on my wedding day! which is SO unlike her! She later told me she was purposely not trying to look at me before the wedding b/c she didn’t want to be all wet faced & balling her eyes out during the ceremony.

Post # 13
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My mom has been like this too, and judging from the other responses i think it is just a Mom thing. I try not to get upset about it.

Post # 14
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My mom kind of reacted like this to my engagement. When I confronted her about her tame/lackluster response, she said, “Well I told you I was happy for you and that you must be so happy…I’m not sure what else you wanted me to say.”

She sounds like your mom in that she genuinely thinks your dress is pretty…but maybe isn’t sure what else there is to it.

I am so sorry you did not get the response you wanted. I do not blame you for feeling that way, but I bet she cares more than she let on.

And like everyone else said, we’d be happy to fawn all over you!

Post # 15
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry! Post a pic and we will make you feel all better about it.

Post # 16
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1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yes, definitely post a pic!  We will give you the feedback your mom should have.  I’m sorry she was so blase about it, that must have really hurt.  You will look gorgeous that day, don’t despair 🙂

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