Post # 1
Let me start out by saying that we LOVE our photographer. Being a photographer himself, FI was totally impressed by him and we both really liked his style (and prices!). We had an absolute BLAST with him on our engagment shoot and had high expectations when we saw one the photos pop up on his Facebook page that same night!
Well, we just got the rest of the last night. All 77 of them. Now that might seem like a lot, but there really aren’t many fantastic ones. I mean, maybe 3 that we really really liked. The photography itself is great, as we expected, but some of the poses he had us in weren’t really great. There were quite a few that FI looks great in, but my head placement is awkward. There’s no good way to explain:
We were also disappointed in the pictures that we got with our one prop: a save the date banner. It was kind of windy, but even in the pictures where you can easily see and read the banner, FI’s eyes are closed. To be honest, this was the one pose that I really wanted. We haven’t set our date with our church yet, so I didn’t want anything with our date in the photos on the off chance that it changes.
I guess we were expecting to have too many good ones to choose from, and instead, there don’t seem to be enough ones where we both look good. Am I just being overly critical and subjective? He emailed us asking how we liked them, but I haven’t built up the courage to tell him how disappointed we were. There are definitely a few that we LOVE, but the majority of them won’t ever see the light of day. Should we just be honest with him and tell him we aren’t thrilled with the overall results? And how on earth do we approach that?! I don’t want to make it seem like we’re ungrateful 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sorry this happened to you. I bet they aren’t as bad as you think. I love the lighting in this picture. Maybe he can offer some kind of discount since yall aren’t happy. Will he be doing your wedding also?
Post # 4
I was all set to come into this thread and tell you to give it a few days… that I hated our e-photos when we got them but after a few days of letting them settle in and hearing other peoples’ compliments, I started to see their beauty… but yeesh, your head placement really IS kind of awkward there. I’m surprised your photographer didn’t catch that and ask you to re-adjust. Ours gave us some guidance – i.e., lift your chin, shift to the left, etc. – and I saw some of our pictures where I think we would have looked better with a little more guidance. So I think one of the things you might want to mention to him is that you would like some more direction when you’re posing for wedding photos. That’s why engagement photos are good, right? They help you both figure out what to do before the wedding pictures. And in this case, I think it’s a good idea to let him know that if one of you is posing funny, he shouldn’t be afraid to re-position you.
Post # 5
@Curly W: like i said, there are a few that are STUNNING, but most of them are like the one i posted. and yes, he’ll be doing our wedding. the e-pics session was part of the package.
@KatieBklyn: haha i’m glad you understand! and i have given it a little while before writing this and i’m still not very satisfied with most of them. i think i might just ask him if we can reshoot, at least just the ones with the save the date banner. i can superimpose one of our faces/bodies into another one that looks better in photoshop, but i really don’t feel like i should have to….
Post # 6
@juliebean816: I would suggest talking with him. He’s a professional and he needs honest feedback about his work. You’re not being too picky; you paid for a service and were disappointed. It’s possible he’ll work something out with you, possibly another photo shoot at no charge or a discounted charge. Also he may be able to edit some of the pics you don’t like as much.
Talk with him, you won’t sound ungrateful – I’m sure you’ll be able to be respectful of his work and kind about it, while at the same time being straightforward and honest. He most likely will appreciate the feedback and will want to make you and your FI happy.
Post # 7
I had the same sort of let-down it sounds like you’re describing. What helped for me was to sit down with my FI and go through the pictures one-by-one. For each one I honestly evaluated: was there an issue with a) something photography-related (lighting, composition, etc) b) something posing related (weird awkward angles, etc) or c) me having unrealistic standards for myself? I found for most of my photos, it was b) and c). So I went and got new makeup that stands out more in pictures and have been experimenting with different hairstyles, and having FI take lots of pictures to compare. We also felt really awkward posing together at the start of our engagement photo shoot and that really comes through. So now we practice posing together and taking casual pics with our camera. It’s silly and uncomfortable but we’re both getting better at posing more naturally, so that makes me feel more prepared – and our casual pictures are already looking almost exactly how I pictured.
We’re also going to ask her to make our appearances her #1 priority and absolutely call out if we should move our heads, etc. – we’re not very serious people so it wouldn’t bother me to hear that sort of stuff while getting ready and going through the day. I feel comfortable telling her that because it was a small change she’s totally willing to do; she understands my wishes (No double chin, No backfat pics, etc) and can accommodate them without compromising her work (which is gorgeous). If I had problems with the photos based on a), or thought that she couldn’t understand or help us with b), well, that would be a different story and we’d probably go with someone else.
This is rambling but basically, if you and your FI like this photographer and believe he’s up to the task, you could: do what you can to eliminate variables on your end (test out makeup/hairstyles/outfits/poses), and let him know small changes he could help with/enact to get you the photos you want. That’s his goal, after all 😉 But if you find yourself looking at them all and just thinking, “No, he just doesn’t get it” and, even with an in-person conversation you can’t get him on board with your vision, do both yourselves a favor and gently let him know you’re going with someone else. And for what it’s worth, I think you’re totally in the right about the picture you posted. This is my pet peeve about male photographers (I work at a photo lab with wedding photographers): they often focus more on the lighting and composition of a shot, instead of how the people – especially THE BRIDE – looks! Being sexist here but it’s such a common man thing, I’d bet he doesn’t even notice it. Just ask him to make that his priority, maybe ask for a mini-reshoot to be sure and see how that goes 🙂
Post # 8
@Sunfire: thanks! it’s nice to get reassurance in what i’m feeling!
@whammy: that sounds EXACTLY like us! we’re both very casual people and at the end of the day, we just want really great portraits of ourselves! i wasn’t thrilled with my makeup or outfits, but that’s not his fault and certainly not worth going through the trouble of scheduling a new photoshoot. and like you, we aren’t at all disappointed in the quality of the photos, just the posing and how WE look in them! and that’s what the photos are supposed to be about! thanks so much for your story. it definitely made me feel better knowing that there are other brides in my position. i think we’ll probably go ahead and talk to him and see about scheduling a do over, pointing out that we want to make sure we look like ourselves and don’t have closed or kermit faces or wrinkled noses! thanks again for your empathy!!
Post # 9
@juliebean816: I would definitely talk to him, you’re paying for a service and you should be happy with what you get. Some photographers might even offer to reshoot an engagement session for you. Also, 77 pictures isn’t a ton, it’s not a small number of pictures, but I think it’s pretty average (we got 99 pictures). I think it’s really important to communicate with your photographer, especially if they’re going to be shooting your wedding as well. Best of luck!
Post # 10
@housebee: thank you! we’re definitely going to talk about it and then explain our position to him. i know he’d definitely do a reshoot, so we’ll just have to work it out.
Post # 11
Yeah, I definitely think you should talk to him. Its not a criticism of his work at all. I have so many pictures of me where I had a really good photographer, but I was nervous and/or the photographer got me at a bad time and it just really didn’t work out. It happens sometimes, and its not your fault or the photographers fault (okay, well maybe a little bit the photographers fault.. with some things he maybe should have corrected you more). There will always be some bad pictures, just unfortunately sometimes there are more bad than good.. It happens! I’m sure he’ll be understanding and you two will be able to get some better pictures. =)
Post # 12
I think out of 300 engagement photos, I liked maybe 15.
Post # 13
I would approach him and explain exactly what the issues you have are and see how he reacts. Is he understanding? Is he defensive? You should be very objective and clear as to what the issues are, versus a generic “They don’t look good.” If he is willing to edit them or offer a re-shoot to make you happy, then it works out. However, if shoot no. 2 doesn’t turn out well either, I would seriously consider getting a new photographer. I get that he’s a nice person, but perhaps the combination just isn’t working.
On the other hand, if he refuses to fix anything and still thinks the photos look great and are consistent with his other work, I would take a good look at your contract and consider finding another photographer. There are plenty of photographers out there, especially if you have a good budget for photos, and your wedding is definitely an occasion you can’t repeat!
We had the same issue with our photos. We liked probably 10% of them and the overall setting/props were not really that consistent with our photographer’s online portfolio. I work in a creative environment so my colleagues are pretty savvy about photographer and graphics. They agreed that our photos were subpar at best (especially for what we paid). We approached our photographer about it and what my concerns were, but our photographer remained defensive and refused to edit or alter anything. We hired another photographer for our wedding and we couldn’t be happier. I wouldn’t say I love ALL of the photos from our wedding, but a lot of it has to do with my insecurities rather than actual poor photography.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We had a “thank you” banner for our wedding to use to make thank you cards… It didn’t work out. We were upset at first because we had planned this and spent money on it, but all the pictures with th banner were really bad. but in the end, we had other great photos and we used those instead… I know you had your heart set on the save the date banner, but it wasn’t meant to be. Use the ones you do love, and let him know you were surprised that you didn’t like more of the photos… He might be able to coach you differently at your wedding so you have more keepers.
Post # 15
Simply ask for a reshoot.
Post # 16
It’s hard for me to exactly tell from that pic because the eye bars really distract me but I do understand where you are coming from.
I agree wait until you show some people …. We are definitely the most critical of ourselves.
I was ok with mine the day I got them but now I like them so much better… We do have some awkward hards and stuff though so I get what you are saying for asking our photog to keep an eye out for that more. I think that if you aren’t used to taking pictures the engagement shoot is awesome because that is when you can sort of work that all out….