- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I guess this is kind of a vent post. . hopefully not too bad of a pity party.
I come from a pretty big family – I have 4 sisters and a brother. . I’m getting married in one month to My FI – and his family is just amazing- he has a brother and a sister, they are both married with kids. . and I just love his mom. I never really realized until we got together how cool it is to have family events and to get together and enjoy eachother’s company. My family gets together on Holidays, but it seems to be mainly out of duty. While we all get a long okay without too much drama, it seems like its such a chore to get everyone together.
I’ve already had a little bit of family drama regarding my upcoming wedding – I had planned to have my nieces as my flower girls but they live out of state. Well my lovely sister has been on board all along (been planning the wedding for 10 months!), and when I went to call her for sizes a couple weeks ago she told me that they actually could not afford to come to the wedding. So frustrating. I understand and everything, just wish I would have known sooner. .
So yesterday was my Bridal Shower – thrown by my FSIL who is a great party planner – she seriously goes all out. It was SO nice, I just love her for putting it all together for me. All of my close friends showed up and all of FI’s family came, but only my mom came from my family 🙁 I have 4 sisters (one out of state), and NONE of them showed up.
My younger sister and I are 1 year apart in age, and we have always been really close. I’m 24 and she’s 23. We grew apart a little when I moved away to college, but I really consider her one of the closest people to me. When I got engaged last December I was going to have her as my Maid of Honor, but then she announced that she was Pregnant. I know how she is and that she wouldnt be able to handle all the stress and duties related to MOH position, so I decided to make her a BM instead. I explained it all to her (how I wanted her to be MOH. . .) and she COMPLETELY agreed, we were totally on the same page it seemed. Well fast forward over the past 9 months – she has not helped with anything at all. And I havent really expected her to actually do anything. . I just try to bounce ideas off her and she responds with something along the lines of “I really wish I could help more. . I’m so sorry”. And meanwhile seems to ignore all wedding talk. She didnt go dress shopping with me (too tired/nauseaous), didnt go BM dress shopping (too tired), didnt plan anything related to BM accessories. Nada. The baby was born early this month (he’s adorable!), and I feel like I have been so supportive of her all along. . I threw her baby shower for her, was there the day he was born, have talked with her nonstop about being a new mom. I really would do anything for this girl, I just love her so much.
But since the baby was born, she’s been hinting that she isnt going to come to my bridal shower. It is a 1 hour drive from her house, and she felt like it was really too far. Well we arranged that my mom would drive her and she’d sit in the back with the baby. . but I could tell that she was still worried. So yesterday morning came and I get a text from her that says that her bf got in a fender bender the night before on the freeway and she was up all night long worried and he doesnt want the baby to drive on the freeway, and she cant leave him, yada yada ya – basically what sounds like to me is a last minute flake out.
I just cant help but feel extremely sad about this today. . . I enjoyed my day yesterday and I am so grateful to my FSIL and all that attended, I loved it all. I’m just so sad that none of my sisters came, but ESPECIALLY my younger sister.
I am just so upset and really trying to see everyones point of view. I dont want to be the selfish bridezilla that is throwing a fit because her sister didnt come to her shower. But I am. And Im hating myself for this. I dont really know what kind of advice I’m seeking here. . .I’m just so sad 🙁