Post # 1
I was wondering if any other bees have decided to do this. We still have a year unti our wedding, but we are considering just letting whatever happens happen. We have been together for five and a half years, and we feel confident that if we did get pregnant we would be able to financially handle it. We have been baby crazy forever, and when I decided birth control wasn’t for me, SO had a serious talk with me about maybe letting nature take its course, or in his words, throwing caution to the wind!
Have you decided to stop having “protected” sex? What were/are your experiences like?
Post # 3
Not me personally, but there are a few bees doing this. I believe they refer to it as NTNT (not trying not to conceive). Congrats on the major life decision! Happy NTNTing!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Well, in my experience (and I am definitely NOT at that point) when people are NTNT they often have more success than those who are TTC, so if you think you’re ready– just make sure you are! 🙂
Post # 5
I couldn’t do that, personally. I’d be way to nervous not knowing if I was pregnant all the time– like, should I have a glass of wine or do I need to pee on a stick first? Plenty of people do this though, it’s just my overthinking of things.
Post # 6
@Miss Grape: I agree with the PP, this is NTNT… Lots of people do this, some get pregnant, some dont =) I have a friend that was NTNT and used pull out method. She now has a six month old baby girl. =)
Post # 7
I guess my main concern would be getting pregnant and then ending up huge on the wedding day. But if that’s not a concern for you, I’d say go for it!
Post # 8
@Miss Grape: Hi 🙂 Last year I developed cysts due to my birth control and I had it removed. I was going to go on another BC, but couldn’t find anything that was going to work with some other health-related things I have going on, and Darling Husband told me just to forget it. We were using condoms at first, but after 3 years of not using them, it sucked to use them again…so we stopped. Before we stopped using them we talked about “what if” and what we would do. He was very supportive of it and we decided together to just go without using BC. This has been since January and no baby so far, LOL. That’s ok with me (we use pull-out method). We got married this past June, so there was a little bit of nerves for a while out of fear that I might be pregnant at the wedding, but I was not, so all is well!
It was scary at first..but now I’m relaxed about it. The only thing that has changed is that I have become more careful with my medications, etc, just in case I do get pregnant. I’m more careful about what I consume and eat, because if I were to get pregnant I dont want to be doing something that could potentially be of harm. Before, while I was on BC, I did not think much of taking medications, etc, but now I am super careful…just in case.
We most likely wont seriously TTC for about 2-3 years…but we are ok with having one now if it were to happen and could handle it financially, etc, so this method has been good for us so far.
Post # 9
We kind of are. We use the “pull out” method, which we know is horribly ineffective, but we don’t really mind. We are comfortable enough that, if we got pregnant, we’d be fine with it, but we’re not particularly trying to get pregnant. I also don’t really think we’re NTNT, since we are “technically” using a form of birth control. We already have a 3 year old, so having a child at this point would really change our lifestyle, but we haven’t decided to TTC yet.
Post # 10
The pill and several forms of hormonal bc screwed me up royally. We started with the pull out method and now we’re back to it. Yeah, not the most effective but it’s worked for us for years, we’re married, we’re financially and professionally stable and to top it off my guy has a bit of baby fever. If it happens it happens and we’re fine with that though, given the track record of zero scares over the years so far, I’d be surprised if anything did happen.
Post # 11
A friend of mine started doing this about 10 months prior to her wedding. She ended up getting pregnant almost immediately! While they were excited, they had to push their wedding off since it was a destination wedding on an island, and she was due less than a month before the wedding, but sometimes people have more success this way!!
Post # 12
@les105: I agree that “pull out” does not equal “NTNT”. While I certainly realize it is in no way fool proof, I see it as ‘very much decreasing the chances’ of getting pregnant. That said, i do know a few pull out babies! But POM is kind of no fun, so if I was really NTNT I wouldn’t use it.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the feedback, Bees! I have had a medical issue since I was 16 that may make it more difficult to conceive, but not impossible. SO has even said himself that he thinks I’d look hot in a maternity dress. We will just have to see what happens.
@spyjoy222: how are you more careful with medications? That is a worry of mine too, and I am curious how you handle that. 🙂
Post # 14
Yeah, this is ‘basically’ what my husband and I are doing. I went off B/C two days ago (scary! ack! haha), and we haven’t used any protection yet, but Darling Husband says we will start with either condoms or pulling out from today onwards… but, that being said, he’s said himself that we will probably ‘forget’ to use protection more often than not :p We are planning on actively TTC-ing starting September, so I think we are pretty lax on whether it happens now.. 🙂
Post # 15
@Miss Grape: We joined the NTNT camp a little over a year ago. I wanted to get off birth control, and once we were married (and financially stable) we were happy to let whatever happens happen like you said. I used an iPhone app to keep track of my period and it also told me when I was ovulating, so we tried to avoid those times. Except last month when I didn’t realize it was primetime, we had a little fun, and guess who’s 5 weeks along now?! LOL! I’m glad we didn’t have a stressful TTC stage, but in the same token, because we were NTNT, we’re still a bit in shock (although very excited) and are still getting used to the idea of a baby coming along in March. It’s a little crazy!
So my biggest words of advice, track when you’re ovulating and skip the sexy time on those days if you don’t feel like having company in the next 9-10 months 😉
Post # 16
We joined the NTNC club in May, 3 months before our wedding. On month ONE, we conceived…..I’ll be around 12-13 weeks at the time of the wedding!
We never thought that it’d happen the first month, especially since I’m in my 30’s….but here we are! 🙂