Not TTC, but sad over no BFP

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
10863 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sofialovesmikey: I know what you mean, that happened to me a few years ago when AF decided not to show one month. When we’ve been TTC on one month I got all the symptoms, I even went off coffee, but got a BFN. Strange isn’t it. 

The right time will come, enjoy it being just the two of you while it’s here.

Post # 4
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this is totally normal. AF was late the FIRST month my DH and I started dated, and I was sad when I got the BFP! We barely knew each other! 

Post # 5
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1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sofialovesmikey:  Have you guys talked about a TTC timeline?  Maybe it’s time you guys start trying?  FWIW, IMHO, I think there could always be something in people’s lives that make them think it’s not the right time.  But, it’s just a matter of is it something you truly want and could you make it work?  Good luck!

Post # 6
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sofialovesmikey:  I understand, the exact same thing happened to me not too long ago 🙁 We are not even married yet, certainly not TTC, and, like you guys, in a pretty bad spot to have had an “oops” baby. I was just having the most bizarre symptoms and had this feeling about it I couldn’t shake. I didn’t even have to take a test though- AF eventually showed up full force. It was still sad although I knew in my heart that the timing would’ve been awful.

There’s something about having that potential and that hope that wakes up all these crazy emotions, only to end up having to carry on with life like nothing ever happened 🙁 Like you, I am looking forward to that “right time,” it will be even more amazing!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve been going through the exact same thing. DH and I had a scare the first month we were married, and after I got over the initial panic, I really sort of wanted to be pregnant. I tested a few times because I was 10 days late (and I’m NEVER late) and having lots of symptoms. My mom even asked if I was pregnant just completely out of the blue. And then I finally got AF and was so sad. Now it’s happening again! We aren’t TTC but I’m only on the mini-pill and DH stopped using condoms. He hates them and we figured it’s pretty safe and if we happen to get pregnant it’s not a bad thing…except for the next 8-9 months before we do start really TTC I think I’m going to be convinced every month that I might be pregnant. I’m just trying to focus on the things I want to do before we start really TTC and enjoy my alone time with DH as much as possible. We talked about our timeline and are focusing on enjoying this time together, and it does help a little with the wait!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I dealt with this a few months ago and honestly, I decided to set up a TTC timeline for next fall after it happened. I have secondary infertility so I had no intention of trying for another baby. (My DS is 10 now). However, I FELT pregnant over the summer and was positive I was even though we weren’t trying. Got a BFN and was CRUSHED. So weird for me because I never had baby fever or even considered adding to our family until this happened. 

Anyway, I think this is perfectly normal to feel this way. While it’s totally fine to let yourself feel how you need to feel about it, try not to dwell. Continue to move forward and soak yourself in all the wonderful blessings you currently have to bring yourself out of the hole. Wishing you the best… 

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