Post # 1
Hey bees. I’ve been having some strange symptoms the last 6 weeks or so (intermittent naseau, fatigue, tender breasts, very light period) so figured I should test. I wasn’t racked with anxiety over it as I’ve been when I tested in the past over a scare, and was strangely calm about it. I didn’t really *think* i was pregnant, but given the symptoms it just made sense. But, I tested negative.
DH and I are not currently TTC. We just got married, all our family and friends live 4 hours away, we share one (unsafe for children) car and are not currently in a financial place where we could comfortably support a child. It would be a significant struggle.
Still though, I’m very sad it was negative. I understand it is best for now, and it will be so much better when we are prepared to start a family, but I can’t seem to shake this feeling. I’m very bummed out about it.
Post # 3
@sofialovesmikey: I know what you mean, that happened to me a few years ago when AF decided not to show one month. When we’ve been TTC on one month I got all the symptoms, I even went off coffee, but got a BFN. Strange isn’t it.
The right time will come, enjoy it being just the two of you while it’s here.
Post # 4
I think this is totally normal. AF was late the FIRST month my DH and I started dated, and I was sad when I got the BFP! We barely knew each other!
Post # 5
@sofialovesmikey: Have you guys talked about a TTC timeline? Maybe it’s time you guys start trying? FWIW, IMHO, I think there could always be something in people’s lives that make them think it’s not the right time. But, it’s just a matter of is it something you truly want and could you make it work? Good luck!
Post # 6
@sofialovesmikey: I understand, the exact same thing happened to me not too long ago 🙁 We are not even married yet, certainly not TTC, and, like you guys, in a pretty bad spot to have had an “oops” baby. I was just having the most bizarre symptoms and had this feeling about it I couldn’t shake. I didn’t even have to take a test though- AF eventually showed up full force. It was still sad although I knew in my heart that the timing would’ve been awful.
There’s something about having that potential and that hope that wakes up all these crazy emotions, only to end up having to carry on with life like nothing ever happened 🙁 Like you, I am looking forward to that “right time,” it will be even more amazing!
Post # 7
I’ve been going through the exact same thing. DH and I had a scare the first month we were married, and after I got over the initial panic, I really sort of wanted to be pregnant. I tested a few times because I was 10 days late (and I’m NEVER late) and having lots of symptoms. My mom even asked if I was pregnant just completely out of the blue. And then I finally got AF and was so sad. Now it’s happening again! We aren’t TTC but I’m only on the mini-pill and DH stopped using condoms. He hates them and we figured it’s pretty safe and if we happen to get pregnant it’s not a bad thing…except for the next 8-9 months before we do start really TTC I think I’m going to be convinced every month that I might be pregnant. I’m just trying to focus on the things I want to do before we start really TTC and enjoy my alone time with DH as much as possible. We talked about our timeline and are focusing on enjoying this time together, and it does help a little with the wait!
Post # 8
I dealt with this a few months ago and honestly, I decided to set up a TTC timeline for next fall after it happened. I have secondary infertility so I had no intention of trying for another baby. (My DS is 10 now). However, I FELT pregnant over the summer and was positive I was even though we weren’t trying. Got a BFN and was CRUSHED. So weird for me because I never had baby fever or even considered adding to our family until this happened.
Anyway, I think this is perfectly normal to feel this way. While it’s totally fine to let yourself feel how you need to feel about it, try not to dwell. Continue to move forward and soak yourself in all the wonderful blessings you currently have to bring yourself out of the hole. Wishing you the best…