Post # 1
My friend from work referred me to her husband’s DJ company for our wedding. It took a month for her to get me the info, so in the meantime I started looking at other DJs. We spoke to a DJ who has done many weddings at our venue (it’s a semi-DW – 2 hours away). He actually charges $150 more than my friend’s husband.
The reason we went with this guy is because he will tailor the music to our late-afternoon, Sunday reception in a barn. My friend’s husband is the kind of DJ that pulls people out of their chairs if they’re not dancing (my guests probably won’t like that), and is more “clubby.” This other DJ we spoke to specifically said he won’t do that. Plus, he knows the ins and outs of our venue. He’s also doing the ceremony, and my friend’s husband did not include the ceremony in his quote…if he did, they’d probably be the same price.
So how do I tell the friendor? I feel bad :/
Post # 3
when in doubt, blame your fiance! Mine surely does it to me. “Oh, thanks so much for this! While we were waiting for your quote, Jake continued to researching and now he’s really attached to another DJ that he interviewed. Selecting the music is his one big contribution to the planning, so I don’t want to take his favorite DJ away.” This is what I would do because it minimizes awkwardness as it takes the blame off you, and actually shifts a portion of the blame to your friend because she realizes that had she not taken so long to get back to you, she may have gotten the job.
Post # 4
@newcitylights: blame your fiance, tell her that it was his fault and that he chose the other DJ without telling you! =P ihihi..naah just kiddin..
mmmh.. well just try to explain the situation and tell her that you need a certain type of service that is not what her DJ is going to provide.. I don’t know what kind of guest you have but tell her that some of them don’t really enjoy the “club-dancing” scene (maybe because they’re older of they are very shy and reserved people) and you don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable.. you want to keep everybody happy!! I know it’s hard, and it’s difficult to find the right words to explain the situation, but if she is a REAL friend she will understand that you want YOUR day to be perfect and will accept your decision! =)
Post # 5
@Overjoyed: +1. Genius idea. This is what I do and my Fiance doesn’t seem to care, lol. I just say, “I can’t possibly veto one of my FI’s only decisions in the wedding. I’d just feel so bad.” Works like a charm 🙂
Post # 6
definitely fine to fib a little in this instance. you could even say that he’s a preferred vendor of your venue, but i love the ‘my fi is in charge of music and he’s super excited about ‘x’ – i’ll definitely pass your info on to any other brides i know though!’
Post # 7
@adoc86: girl, I overheard mine straight up tell one of his relatives that his fiancee really loves the water and she couldn’t imagine not getting married on a yacht. Actually, I get violently motionsick and will be heavily medicated during the reception, lol. We chose the yacht because of the package they offer, but whatevs. We’re a team. Sometimes we have to block for each other 🙂
Post # 8
just tell her you found a DJ that more fits the taste and vision of what you saw for your wedding.